Youth Related Fiqhi Issues (Fatwa Session)

Welcome to a new live fatwa session. We are honored that Dr. Muhammad Salama will be our guest for this session.

If you have a question, feel free to submit it. Our guest, Dr. Muhammad Salama, will answer all your questions. The answers will be published soon on this page at the time of the session.

You can also send you questions in advance at [email protected]

Tuesday, Jan. 14, 2020 | 12:00 - 13:30 Makkah | 09:00 - 10:30 GMT

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Addiction - About Islam

Q:

Salam alaikum How to handle strong addictive craving when it comes give me some basic tools to deal with it?

A:

Wa alaykum as-salam wa-rahmatullah wa-barakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

Duaa (prayer/supplication) is the strongest weapon a Muslim has in the face of all life trials and challenges. Allah says in the Quran what means, “Yet the Lord of [all of] you has said: Call upon Me [in prayer]. I shall answer you.” Quran 40:60)

Addiction is one of the hardest trials in which one becomes in dire need for Allah’s help and assistance. So, you should turn with a penitent heart to Allah. Call upon Him day and night; particularly in during the daily Prayers. Choose the best times to answer duaa such as the time between Adhan and iqamah and shortly before dawn. Talk to your Merciful Lord and ask Him to help you overcome this addiction and grant you patience and resolve. Keep knocking the door and be sure, it will open.

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Regarding Aqeeqah - About Islam

Q:

Dear Sir, Assalaam U Alekum !

I would like to know two things regarding the ruling of Aqeeqah as per Shariah

1- Amongst whom should be the slaughtered sheep/lamb/goat etc of Aqeeqah be distributed? Who are the people who have the right to receive Aqeeah’s distribution.

2- Can the family members such as parents / grandparents/ uncle/aunt eat the meat of the sacrificed animal of Aqeeqah.

Thanks.

Wasalaam.

A:

Wa alaykum as-salam wa-rahmatullah wa-barakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

A number of scholars recommend that the meat of `Aqeeqah should be distributed just like the meat of udhiyyah. However, there is no specific direction in the Prophetic Sunnah on how to distribute it. One thus may distribute it as he wishes. It may be distributed, cooked or uncooked, among relatives, friends, neighbors, or/and the poor.

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Beard - About Islam

Q:

Dear scholar

Selam alejkum

My question is about shaving a beard to appear my husband more attractive in my eyes. I do not deny any ijmah or Hadith said about topic. Basically my question is…can my husband shave his beard to make me happier and more attractive to me. My husband do not want leave Sunnah which is almost a fard about beard…but if is not sin to make me happier..can he do it. Please answer me simply yes or no…. because I am stubborn woman. May Allah reward you for effort.

A:

Wa alaykum as-salam wa-rahmatullah wa-barakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

In a clear and explicit injunction, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered, “Let the beard grow out.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

The majority of scholars thus uphold the prohibition of shaving one’s beard. This is further bolstered by other prophetic narrations where this injunction is meant to distinguish a Muslim from non-Muslims.

If this is so, a Muslim has always to be mindful of the Quranic principle that “it is not ever [befitting] for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter, to have for themselves a [contrary] choice in their affairs. For whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has truly strayed into clear misguidance.” (Quran 33:36)

Therefore, sister, instead of asking your husband to disobey the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), you should help and encourage him to further abide the Sunnah. Of course, it is your right to ask him to make you happy, but it is not your right to ask him to disobey the Messenger of Allah. A Muslim has to feel contented and pleased with all Islamic teachings and injunctions.

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Cure for evil eye - About Islam

Q:

Should one whose been jealous or envied someone and noticed bad things happening to the one they’ve been jealous of a day after or a few weeks after, wash themselves and apply the water on the one they’ve envied, even if it’s a girl he has envied and he is male and even if they are not sure their jealousy caused the bad things for the person.

Also, What if a few months has passed and good things have been happening to the one they’ve envied, should a cure still be provided and can the envied still die as a result of evil eye.

Also if one has envied or been jealous of someone, should he still try and provide a cure if the one he envied hasn’t had anything bad happen to them yet but it’s only been one day since they envied them but he regrets doing it.

A:

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

Envy is an evil passion and disease. It kindles within the envier’s heart like a burning coal. Therefore, the Quran enjoins us to seek refuge with Allah “from the evil of an envier when he envies.” (Quran 113:5)

Envy and evil eye have real effects and may cause harm to the envied person. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said that “The [evil] eye may send man to the grave.” [Sahih al-Jami`] He also said, “The [influence of an evil] eye is real. If anything would precede the qadar (divine preordainment), it would be the [influence of an evil] eye. Thus, when you are asked to take bath [as a cure] from the influence of an evil eye, you should take bath.” [Muslim]

The last part of the hadith prescribes what should be done when the envied person is affected by envy or an evil eye and we have come to know the envier. This is a kind of remedy to be used when needed to remove the evil effect of envy. If there is no evil effect, there is no need for the remedy.

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Marriage - About Islam

Q:

May Allah reward you for serving the ummah. Shaykh It is been a year since I have started attending mosque and praying regularly. Alhamdulillah I have a  beard and trying to follow all the  basic principles of Islam. However, I am in a relationship with a girl for last 1.5 years and to be honest I wasn’t that religious when I started this relationship with her. Please don’t think I am hypocrite I am really committed to my religion it is just that she is quite attached to me and if I leave her now it will have adverse impact on her education considering the fact she already had a year gap. But the thing is our parents won’t allow us to get married as we are quite young and I have not started earning yet. Nevertheless, as she doesn’t want to leave me and so I was thinking of marrying her without her parents’ consent. I follow Hanafi madhaab and if I am not wrong a woman can get married without her guardian if that man is suitable for her. I really don’t want to continue this haraam relationship but I feel like I am being compelled as she loves me a lot and doesn’t want to lose me. I have completed my graduation recently and currently doing a postgrad. My parents are financially affluent but they won’t allow me as they will think I don’t have a established career. But what should I do?? I am already an OCD patient and this has led me to become religious and If I am being rejected to enter Paradise just because of this I will be the biggest loser. Therefore, to keep in contact with her I am planning to get married without letting my and her parents know about it. Therefore I really want to know whether the marriage will be valid according Islamic shariah? I don’t care about what my parents think if my Allah is happy with it I am ready to do this marriage. Please help me

A:

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

As you have already admitted that your current relationship is haram, I shall not comment on this point. Now, the first thing you have to do is to sever your relation with her until things are settled in a legitimate way.

The only way to legitimize your relationship is to prepare yourself for marriage responsibilities and then propose to her family. Although your parents’ approval is not a must for the validity of your marriage, still you need to seek their consent so as not to be disobedient and ungrateful to them.

Regarding the girl, the majority of scholars maintain that a Muslim bride has to have a wali (guardian) in order to conclude the marriage contract. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “A woman who marries without her wali’ (guardian)’s permission her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid.” (Al-Tirmidhi)

The Hanifite school’s position regarding this issue is remarkably weak as it stands in opposition to such an unambiguous prophetic verdict.

If her family refuses, you can do nothing else. Man proposes, but God disposes. If you really want to please Allah, you have to resist your passion, follow the legitimate ways, and believe that the outcomes are in His Hands alone. He knows best; and whatever he decrees for both of you will be much better than what you think of.

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Abortion rulings - About Islam

Q:

I have a problem whereby I have met someone and we get on really well and we are very attracted to each other, both of us pray 5x a day and are practicing etc. However, we have both found out that we both carry a genetic trait called Beta Thellasemia Trait. It doesn’t affect us but if we were to have children there is 1 in 4 chance that our children will inherit the Major Thellasemia disease which means they will be severely anaemic, would constantly need blood transfusions, in and out of hospital and would die young. We’re absolutely devastated because both of us have been searching for a spouse for a very long time. I’m 33, he’s 39. I prayed tahajjud for it and when I met him I finally thought my Duas were answered. He has also been making lots of dua. It is so hard to find someone you’re attracted to and get on with and have the same outlook on life. But now we’ve discovered this and I don’t know what to do. He said it’s my call as he has children from his previous marriage already but he still wants it to work out between us.

My question is, would abortion be allowed in this case if we tested the baby while I was pregnant and found out it had the major thellasemia disease?

I’ve been thinking I would want to go to umrah every time I became pregnant to pray really hard to Allah to grant us a healthy child and I would pray tahajjud as much as I could too and surely Allah would then answer our prayers? I have also been thinking that maybe we have met and are meant to get married but this may help us get closer to Allah as we would constantly be praying to him for healthy children?

Thank you for your time

A:

Wa alaykum as-salam wa-rahmatullah wa-barakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

This is one of the negative effects of pre-marriage checkups. Now, as both of you know about that risk and still you decided to marry, then let’s pray to Allah to bless your marriage and grant you healthy and lovely children.

As for abortion, Muslim scholars have reached a consensus on the prohibition of aborting the fetus after the life-giving spirit has been breathed into it; that is, after lapse of 120 days as indicated by the Prophetic statement “Indeed, the creation of each one of you is brought together in his mother’s womb for forty days in the form of a sperm-drop, then it becomes a clinging clot for a like period, then a morsel-like lump for a like period. Then the angel is sent to it to blow the life-giving spirit into it.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

The only reason to abort the fetus at this stage is to save the life of the mother.

Before these 120 days, it may be aborted only if trustworthy specialists confirm, through their medical examinations, that it will be born with severe deformation or an incurable disease that will cause constant pain, hardship, and suffering for both parents and their child.

Of course, you should always turn in humility to Allah and implore Him to grant you healthy children and to set all your affairs aright.

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Cheating in exam - About Islam

Q:

Assalamu alykum… For someone who cheated (by whispering in exam hall and knowing the questions before the exam although the question may not be right sometimes) in one of the three major exams required for entry into the university and got the admission and the person is now in the second year and has not cheated since entry into the university and passed the first year very well. The person now feels guilty and wants to do taubah how does she go about it? Does she have to go back to the secondary school to rewrite the exam or making tawbah alone is sufficient

A:

Wa alaykum as-salam wa-rahmatullah wa-barakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

No, she does not have to go back to the secondary school to retake the exam. I do not even think that this is possible or practical solution. Anyway, all she has to do is to repent sincerely to Allah and develop a strong resolve not to do this again. .

Allah said in the Quran what means, “He [alone] is the One who accepts repentance from His servants and pardons misdeeds” (Quran 42:25), and “Yet there is [acceptance of] repentance with Allah only for those who do evil out of ignorance then repent soon after. It is such as these whom Allah will grant repentance.” (Quran 4:17)

May Allah pardon all our misdeeds.

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Are my fasts nullified? - About Islam

Q:

Salam, kindly consider this situation: on a fasting day, I was cleaning myself after passing stool using a bidet spray, and had sprayed at my rear end private area. However, I am not sure whether or not water had entered the rear end passage.

To test this further, on a non-fasting day, I tried to intentionally spray water from the bidet into the rear passage, to establish a baseline for what it feels like to have water enter it. However, even when intentionally trying to do so, I find that it is not immediately obvious and I can’t tell whether or not water had truly entered.

Given how I can’t decipher whether or not water had entered through the rear, even when intentionally trying to make it enter, I am concerned that my judgment for whether or not water had truly entered the rear is flawed. Therefore, I am unsure if my fasts are nullified or not. if one tried to make water enter, but isn’t sure whether or not it truly had entered, does that mean he/she can still take it as water having NOT entered ? I don’t know if this is a fair judgment to make.

I guess my underlying question is: If I don’t have a gauge as to whether or not I have indeed nullified the fast through water entering the rear opening (or through any other nullifier, for that matter), how can I be sure that I really nullified the fast or not at all?

I understand that in the instance where I am not sure whether or not water had entered, I can simply take it as water had *not* entered, as doubts aren’t enough of a basis to deem one’s fast as being nullified.

The problem is, however, I don’t know what it is like to have water enter the rear opening in the first place. Therefore, I am not able to establish a proper basis for differentiating between doubts and instances where water had truly entered and nullified my fasts.

 

I hope you understand my question. Thank you for your patience.

 

Jazakallah Khairan

A:

Wa alaykum as-salam wa-rahmatullah wa-barakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

I am afraid, brother, that this way of thinking might lead you to obsessive doubts. Islam is an easy religion and its rituals are simple and easy as well. You said that you did not intend to enter water into your anus, which is enough evidence to declare that your fasting was not nullified.

So, you did not need to go through all these tiresome examinations. Even if you had intended to do that, still your fasting would not have been declared definitely nullified, since there is scholarly disagreement on this issue. In fact, the opinion that does not nullify fasting in this case seems more reasonable.

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Sexual desires - About Islam

Q:

Assalamu Aleikum! I am a 21 year old african muslim man from sweden born and raised. Alhamdulilah i have started university 1 week ago and will remain there for the next 3 years .I have trouble with desires. Allhamdulilah i have never commited zina but i keep thinking about all the time. I have some friends that are also muslim and they do zina and always try to encourage do so as well. When i get thoughts of fornication i try to nip it in the bud because if i want my future spouse to be pure i have to remain pure myself. But it’s hard for me. I gave struggled for a long time .I hope you have sincere advice you can give me.

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Wa alaykum as-salam wa-rahmatullah wa-barakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

Dear brother, may Allah protect you and help you to remain steadfast in your religion.

You are in a critical situation, indeed. But a Muslim has always to keep his religion first in all the decisions he makes. As a young unmarried man you will be suffering serious temptations. The ideal solution is to get married, if you can afford it.

If you cannot, then my advice to you is first to find better friends than those who urge you to commit those heinous abomination.

Allah says in the Quran what means, “And you shall not ever approach illicit sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is [utter] lewdness and a most evil way.” (Quran 17:32)

Also try to attend at the nearest mosque of Islamic center, where you can find support and guidance. Duly observe daily prayers and keep the Quran in your company to recite it whenever and wherever you are free.

Allah says in the Quran what means, “Recite all that has been revealed to you of the Book [of Allah]. Moreover, [duly] establish the Prayer. Indeed, the Prayer guards [one] against immorality and evil.” (Quran 45:29)

Try to keep yourself always busy with useful activities, because leisure time is the trap of Satan. Pray sincerely to Allah to protect and guard you against disobedience, evil, and lewdness.

If you still suffer and really fear of committing fornication, then you have to go back to your country and be sure that Allah will compensate you because you want to protect your faith and religiosity.

Allah says what means, “And whoever fears Allah, He shall make for him a way out [of every difficulty]. Moreover, He shall provide for him from where he has never conceived.” (Quran 65:2-3)

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “You will never give up something for the sake of Allah except that He shall replace it for you with something better.” (Ahmad)

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Regarding About Impurity - About Islam

Q:

Asslamu Alaikum.

Sometimes when I wipe my anus, dirty black stuff (Not Feces) comes out such as: When we wipe our body thoroughly and something comes out. Is it napak (impure)? And last of all is it general incident for all men?

A:

Wa alaykum as-salam wa-rahmatullah wa-barakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

I do know really know what kind of “black stuff” this could be. If one is not cleansing his anus after excreting, why should he wipe it?!

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Clay - About Islam

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Assalamu alaikum I’m woman & I have question about clay. As far I know if clay is made of pure mud, it is pure. What is pure mud & impure mud?  In case of things containing clay if there is no way to know whether the clay comes from pure mud or impure mud, should I stop using it?

A:

Wa alaykum assalam warahmatullah wabarakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

Usually clay does not contain najasah (ritually impure substances). So, basically you should not worry about it, even if you are not sure of its origin, unless you have information that indicates otherwise.

Almighty Allah knows best.


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In laws - About Islam

Q:

I live in UAE and my in laws live in other country with their 2 married sons in which one of my brother in law has 2 sons of age 8 n 10 n daughter of 3yrs, and the other son has 1 daughter of 3 yrs. Plz tell me according to islam can i stay in in-laws house in summer for 1,1/2 month with my family, as i have son ie 6yr n daughter 3yr. And i also want to visit my parents place where my married brother also lives with daughter 3yr n son 6 yr. And plz tell me that how i should convince my husband about the na mahrams in my in laws house. Thanks?

 

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Wa alaykum assalam warahmatullah wabarakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving,

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

Your brothers-in-law are not mahram (non-marriageable males) to you and hence you have to observe your full hijab (Islamic dress code) in their presence. Of course, this could be quite challenging when you live in their houses for a long period; particularly, if the house is not big enough.

Your husband has to be aware of such an awkward situation you will be facing. If he is not aware, you need to approach him gently and remind him of the limits prescribed by Allah regarding your association with your non-mahram in-laws. It is his responsibility as well to help you not to infringe the limits of Allah.

Such issues need to be settled through soft dialogue and mutual consultation keeping the pleasure of Allah in front of your eyes after all.

Almighty Allah knows best.


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Is it shirk to obey laws that goes against sharia? - About Islam

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Is it kufr/shirk if a Muslim obeys a man-made law in a non-Muslim country he/she lives in? Such as obeying a law which orders one to pay interest for a loan or forces you to commit something haram (sinful) in a workplace. Some say this is shirk due to obedience to other laws than those of Allah and by obeying these acts, some say you accept the legislators of these evil laws as ”Legislators” beside Allah. Is this true? Is it shirk to obey man-made laws whom goes against sharia, or in other words, orders something haram?

Please be as clear and referring to quranic sources as much as possible, as a muslim in a european country, this question has put me in great despair and anxiety, causing me to have very depressed and mentally abusive days.

 

A: 

Wa alaykum assalam warahmatullah wabarakatuh,

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving.

Peace and blessings be upon His noble Prophet Muhammad.

In the Gracious Quran we read this warning against the example of those who “have taken their rabbis and their monks as lords apart from Allah [by sanctifying their mortal dictates]- and [so too have they taken] the Messiah, son of Mary, [as a god], though they were not commanded but to worship the One, [true] God. There is no God but Him. Highly exalted is He [far] above all that they associate as gods [with Him].” (Quran 9:31)

When Adi ibn Hatem, who was Christian, heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) reciting this verse he remarked, “But we do not worship them.” Then the Messenger of Allah replied, “Is not it that when they declare unlawful what Allah has made lawful, you deem it unlawful; and when they declare lawful what Allah has made unlawful, you deem it lawful?” He said, “Yes.” The Messenger of Allah said, “This how they are worshipped.” [Al-Tirmidhi] This verse, among others, clearly regards it a kind of shirk (associating others as gods with Allah) to follow and obey the dictates of those who declare permissible what Allah has declared impermissible or declare impermissible what Allah has declared permissible.

However, obeying man-made laws that contradict the shari`ah is a kind of shirk, if one is pleased with these laws and believes them to be superior or equal to the shari`ah. Yet, if one obeys these laws, confessing that he/she thus commits a sin, but still believes in the superiority of the shari`ah and deems lawful only what Allah has made lawful and unlawful only what Allah has made unlawful, then this person is still a Muslim who has committed a sin, whether minor or major, and needs to repent.

In this context it should be pointed out that a Muslim who lives under a system of laws that forces him/her to disobey shari`ah laws has to try to get out of this system, and find another place, if possible.

Almighty Allah knows best.