Dear Brothers and Sisters,

Thank you for participating in the session.

Please find the 8 questions to which our counselor provided audio answers. If you do not find yours here, check out our upcoming session or submit it there again.

Thank you for your patience and understanding.

Question 1. Feeling Insecure & Useless: Am I Worthy?

Assalamualaikum, I am an ex-student waiting for my finals result to come up in couple of months. Hence, I just wonder what to do if you feel very “useless” and “strange” because I grew up living with these words from my friends and family.

I grew up being bullied for 6 years in my life and I haven’t any close friends in my school days until now. I spent myself reading when I have nobody to talk to, and people often judge me by my actions. I feel inferior often.

Sometimes, I would catch myself crying afterwards. I knew if I try to ignore them with self-love, it would hurt me less. So, because I have more free time after my finals, I try to do new activities like drawing, learn mathematics and learning how to code just to prove that I’m not useless. However, they criticize me that I won’t be a better in any of those activities I just did.

In fact, I want to lose weight to gain more self-confidence but my parents are unsupportive and didn’t respect my choices to go on a diet because I was gaining so much weight because of stress. I feel insecure and useless. I felt like a burden and it’s better if I’m not exist. I want to change my mindset but why I felt so beaten up with these words that are in the past. As if, it determined who I am…and I really appreciate if you could give me advice. Jazakallahu khairan kathira for listening.

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Question 2. How to Be Mentally Strong?

How to not be too sensitive over small things and overcome difficulties in life?

And not let hardships take me away from worship?

How to not panic in sudden fights like situation?

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Question 3. My Mother Is Depressed but Refuses Therapy

My mother is 66 years old healthy woman but she had lots of traumas since she lost my father in a car accident and raised me up in a very hard circumstances and she is so pessimistic or severe depressed. But in a very Islamic way like she thinks this is imaan and she keep saying she might die soon, all time, even in front of her grandchildren.

She doesn’t believe she have anything wrong; she doesn’t want to go to doctor or talking therapy. I am so panicking myself cause sometimes she is so rational so everyone believes her but this is affecting my kids too and I don’t know what should I do?

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Question 4. My Mother Curses Me Every Day

Salam sister. My problem is that my parents always curse me every talking… If I do anything wrong or talk anything to them, she starts cursing at little things… She said may you die now… Unlucky girl… Why are you alive… May you never succeed in any world … I am too religious I try my best to respect our parents because they are both my paradise … I love my mother soo much, I care soo much but I daily listen to these curses… I have no choice… I cried every night because of this curse they slept peacefully … Even I can’t write it because of too much crying … What should I do if Allah listen these bad duas?? Any solution please tell me!

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Question 5. My Appearance Is Taking a Toll on My Mental Health

I am a tall girl and my shoulders are broad which makes me look fat although I am not that much fat and this is genetic my aunts are also like this. And I look way older than my age. People make fun of me they hurt me again and again. This is taking a toll on my mental health. Sometimes I think why Allah has made me like this. Could you please guide me what to do in this matter

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Question 6. Struggling with Anxiety

For about 3 years now I’ve been struggling with anxiety. I have always felt I’m lesser than everyone and I always end up pushing people away. I pushed all my friends and family members away because of my mental health. I lack social communication skills and people always get this idea I’m rude and ignorant. I could take the longest route to not go through other human beings just me here typing this I’m worried someone will see it.

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Question 7. Whispers: Are They from Myself or from Evil?

Assalamualaikum was rahmatullah!

I don’t dare to speak the sentence which is being whispered in my mind. I don’t know is it from myself or evil. How do I know, it is not from myself.

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Question 8. How Can I Manage My Emetophobia in Ramadan?

Salam, I suffer from emetophobia, the fear of vomiting. Although it is not common in Ramadan, it is definitely not unheard of and people often complain about nausea and vomiting during suhoor and iftar, and even during the fast. I have been suffering from crazy anxiety about this issue since even before Ramadan started, and I am just so scared all the time that, what if this is the day? What makes it worse is that someone in my family threw up after eating suhoor during one of the first fasts and I can’t explain how much I don’t want that to happen to them or to me or to anyone ever again. It’s just so awful and it’s making this holy month, that is so beloved to other people, unbearable for me. It is currently the 23rd fast and I feel like I have been in this state for so, so long already and there is a whole week left.  While people are getting ready for Eid and doing extra worship during the last 10 days, I’m just here counting down the days, slowly, waiting for it to just end and I can get back to my normal life (until next year). I just feel so hopeless.

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