Wa alaykum assalamu warahmatullah wabarakatuh

In the Name of Allah, the All Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

Sex outside the marital relationship is zina (fornication/adultery), which is a one of the enormous sins that

incurs Allah’s wrath and punishment in this world and in the Hereafter.

Allah SWT says about His true servants what means, “And they are the ones who do not call upon any other god with God. Nor do they kill a soul- which God has prohibited- except by right. Nor do they commit illicit sexual intercourse. For whoever does this shall meet the penalty of sin. Torment shall be multiplied on the Day of Resurrection for such a one. Thus he shall abide therein forever, disgraced– except for whoever repents, and believes, and does righteous deeds.” (Al-Furqan 25:68-70)

He also says what means: “The [unmarried] woman or [unmarried] man found guilty of sexual intercourse – lash each one of them with a hundred lashes, and do not be taken by pity for them in the religion of Allah , if you should believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a group of the believers witness their punishment.” (An-Nur 24:2)

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing be upon him), in a night vision, saw the severe torment of those who commit zina. He saw them in something like a hearth, naked and crying, while blazing fire coming to them from underneath (Al-Bukhari).  May Allah save us all.

Moreover, true believers are forbidden to marry those who have committed zina unless they sincerely repent to Allah SWT and give up this grave sin. We read in the Quran: “The fornicator does not marry except a [female] fornicator or polytheist, and none marries her except a fornicator or a polytheist, and that has been made unlawful to the believers.” (An-Nur 24:3)

Accordingly, this man is not suitable for you. You have to keep away from him or else you might get slipped in this rotten quagmire. You need to look for a religious man who is God-fearing to build together a true Muslim family.

Seek Allah’s help and always pray to Him to grant you this religious husband.

May Allah protect you.

Allah Almighty knows best.