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General Fatwa Session

Sheikh Kifah Mustapha
20 February, 2018

Dear Brothers/Sisters,

 

Thank you very much for joining us in this Live Fatwa session. We would like also to thank our guest, Sheikh Kifah Mustapha, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers of your questions below.

 

Tuesday, Feb. 20, 2018 | 20:00 - 22:00 GMT

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Salaam, After I urinated and cleaned, I was going to shower and noticed that there was some wetness that mazi, I am having strong doubts on whether any drops have fallen on the floor and the impurity has transferred on to shoes, hairs and other objects on the floor before I could mop and vaccum. I have heard that purity is half deen, and I keep thinking guilty about the strong possibility that I am making things impure and I should have been more careful. Can you please advise ? what extent should i take cleaning ? Thank you for all your help



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Madhi is indeed najis filthy and must be cleaned from clothes or other places especially places of prayer. But keep in mind that it must be verified first it is Madhi and it should be visible in a way no doubt of something else.

 

So in your case, it looks most likely that you are not sure and you did not verify it was Madhi visually seen.

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I say that you need not to fall into the doubtful thoughts without any verification. So only if you see it clear and verify it is Madhi then clean it.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Aoa. I need guidance on Salat al Hajat, method of performing it, the suitable timings for it and any necessary conditions to be fulfilled. Thank you



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Salat Al-Hajah is any normal two Rak’at that you make Wudu first then pray and read quran to your choice after Al-Fatihah.

 

After you are done from Salah, you say this supplication:

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There is no god but Allah the Clement and Wise.
There is no god but Allah the High and Mighty.
Glory be to Allah, Lord of the Tremendous Throne.
All praise is to Allah, Lord of the worlds.
I ask you (O Allah) everything that leads to your mercy, and your tremendous forgiveness, enrichment in all good, and freedom from all sin.
Do not leave a sin of mine (O Allah), except that you forgive it, nor any concern except that you create for it an opening, nor any need in which there is your good pleasure except that you fulfill it, O Most Merciful!”Then you say the specific Dua you intend for…

 

If you do not know the Arabic Dua, you can write it on a paper and read it or even just limit your Dua to that which you want specifically.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum shaikh can female sit in front sit in non mahram male teacher's (whether he is Muslim or not)class to understand study topics, if she wears hijab & follows proper manners/ethics? please note that in her country not doing Hijab is common & maximum women study in non hijab state and there is not sufficient single gender institutions



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Yes, a female can sit in front of any other man Mahram or non-Mahram and talk to him and engage with him in aspect of life be it to study, work etc. The only conditions are to be prompt in communication, keep the respect, be in the Islamic Hijab and it should be fine. Sahabah used to see other female Sahabah and talk to them for all kinds of reasons.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Salam to whomever reading this, My concern and question is a little complex. My sister wants to marry a man who has been divorced. My parents believe the boy is great, but do not think his family is as great as him. They are refusing to further meet the guy and his family. It makes sense and the reasons for his divorce aren't solid. It is because of his family. However, my sister wants to marry him and this has put my family in an awkward and fragile position. My sister still wants to pursue it, but my parents have threatened her and said she doesn't have the right to pursue this. What should she do? I am helpless in this situation and it hurts to see her like this. Thank you.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In most of these cases a third party like yourself or a family member should come in and talk to family. If the man is a good candidate in ethics and Deen and that he can take care of your sister properly, then that person should try to convince parents to approve.

 

If he found that this man asking for her hand is not a good candidate, then he should talk to your sister to change her mind.

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Bottom line, the prophet said: “If one you approve his ethics and Deen came and asked for the hand of your daughter then marry them or great Fitna will happen.”

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Hi, what does it mean to not break ties with family?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

This is not the proper thing to do especially if they are close family members like parents, kids or siblings. It is considered a sin and it could rise to be even among the major sins in Islam if for example was abuse towards parents.

 

We are supposed to treat our families well and take care of them especially if they are our responsibility like parents, siblings etc.

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Almighty Allah knows best.

Aoa, i have been married for last 05 years. Before marriage i was physically intimate with my husband which i understand is a grave sin and we both realized it then and even now. I do not remember if we have ever been physical before marriage to the point of intercourse, we refrained from it. We both were guilty of having physical intimacy before marriage but we did not know at that time that before entering into marriage contract, we had to repent first. I have read somewhere that if marriage is done before repentance, then nikkah is invalid. Can you please help in this regard, in light of Islamic Rulings. Kindly consider following situation . 1) We were unaware that we had to repent first, we were guilty and ashamed and we married to refrain ourselves from doing anything wrong anymore. 2) We do not remember engaging in sexual intercourse prior to marriage 3) we do not remember if we actually repented and asked for forgiveness before marriage. Regards,



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Repentance can happen any time, before or during or after marriage. Marriage is a contract that if it met the conditions of agreeing to marry, guardian presence, two witnesses, Mahr and made public then your are married legally.

 

Things that happened before were sins but Allah is all merciful. Having remorse is a sign of repentance and it means that Allah SW guided you to repent so He can forgive you insha Allah.

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Almighty Allah knows best.

Like the prophet Muhammad had a favorite wife was Khadijah, then Aisha. The rest of women were divorced women with children. Despite that the Prophet was very kind to all of his wives, his heart belong to his first wife Khadijah. Well, see that no man can be perfectly just with his wives, and the husband will always love one wife more than the other. Even if a woman married and divorced, then remarried again, she will love one husband over the other. It is human nature for a person to love one more than the other. So, why is Polygamy allowed when men can never be 100 percent fair?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

I remember when some kids asked their mom which one of us is more beloved than the other to her she said: “the one travelling until he comes back, the one sick until he feels better, the one needs help until I serve him etc.”

 

In other words, hearts are always customized based on type of people, circumstances, favors, and many other factors. Having feelings towards one son who is always next to his mom, giving her money, supporting her will never cancel her love to the son who is away and barely visits!

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The same thing happens in marriage. Nothing is perfect even with one wife. In one day feelings can go up and down ten times a day but at the end; respect, ethics, good treatment and fairness in spending time and financial support will create a good relationship that people can cope with.

 

Taking more than one wife is a personal decision for multiple reasons. As men can divorce wives also wives can ask for Khul` if she feels she cannot tolerate marriage with her husband marrying another woman or for any other legitimate reason.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

I want to ask a question . I do pee and after that I do wudu and offer prayer but I feel like a drop has fallen Inside after I do wudu. This is a big concern for me as I doubt that whether my NAMAZ is accepted or not . Please help me



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

If it is a medical matter, check with a doctor to see if you can treat it first. But if it is not controlled, and medicine is not helping Islam is built to accommodate such cases in ease. Make your Wudu close to the time or prayer, then use a clean tissue and put it inside your underwear around your private area and pray and even if drops of urine fell it should be ok you can continue in your prayer.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

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1- Aslamualikum kindly provide information regarding zawal time of all five time namaz.2- I have a piece of land measuring 1kanal purchased a few years ago .Shall i have to give zakat for it and if yes then how to calculate.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

1- Fajr prayer is when morning light in the sky starts spreading horizontally.

 

Sunrise is when the top of the sun’s disk just appears above the horizon.

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Zhuhr is when the sun begins to decline after reaching its highest point in the sky. So the term Zawal means the beginning of the movement of the sun from that point.

 

Asr is when the length of any object’s shadow reaches the length of the object itself. Hanafi School says twice in length.

Maghreb or Sunset is when the top of the sun’s disk just disappears below the horizon.

Isha is when the (Shafaq) redness or whiteness from sky disappears.

 

2- If it is sitting there with no use at all, no Zakat is applicable on it. Only if you plan to sell it then you pay Zakat on that money 2.5% of that amount once every year.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Is smoking allow in Islam? Can a true Muslim can smoke?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

No, smoking is not allowed in Islam and no Muslim should smoke. It is harmful, wasteful and it brings bad odor to self and surroundings.

Most scholars are in favor of declaring it Haram, some say it is Makruh but even Makruh does not mean Halal!

 

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Almighty Allah knows best.

Two years back I got married ,since we had two miscarriages and after a year my wife left my house and started living with her parents in order to arrange a separate house for her and when I arranged a separate home for her she and her parents came up with new demands of making that house in her name and also asked for making agricultural lands on her name as a security. Since last August she stopped talking to me and said she will only come back if I give her property and lands in her name and just two months back she filed Khula in local court without informing me or asking for divorce. I was shell shocked when got the notice I also tried to talk to her but her father didn't allowed me to talk to her. I am really depressed why she did this with me although I was providing whatever the best I could. Is her Khula legitimate.?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

It looks like there are issues in the relationship that made them demand such things and then even move into Khul`.

 

My advice is to see a local Imam that they are comfortable with and trust and talk to him about reconciliation, now even if it means to make them feel safe by giving them some of their demands (if you wish that) and see if that works.

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If they refuse and insist on Khul`, you have to be ready to face your choices even if they are of hardship and unfair sometimes.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

My boyfriend's parents are forcing him to get married to his cousin but he does not want to. His parents know about me but will not accept me and because it is a love marriage too. What can I do in this situation as it is a lon zzg distant relationship? As salamu alaikum, I am an 18 years old female British Citizen, and a Muslim too. I am in a long distant relationship with my boyfriend who is from Afghanistan and is 24 years old. We have known each other for 1 year and 7 months now. His mother is aware of me and she knows that we both love each other and would like to get married to each other. His father does not accept this because he detests love marriages and says it is impossible for my boyfriend to marry me, sadly. Since a long time, his parents and now his grandparents too have been/are forcing him to get married to his cousin but he really does not want to. He has begged them and has cried to them, saying to them to not do this but they are still continuing to do this. I believe they are aware that forced marriages are forbidden in Islam but still they are going against this. My boyfriend has rejected girls in the past for me and managed to stop his parents from doing anything about the marriage situation then, however this time, he was unable to stop them. His mother has spoken to her brother about her daughter's hand and their engagement has been set for next month, but the exact date is yet to be finalized, and their wedding will be in either 3 or 6 months from now.Please can you help me because I really do not know what to do in this situation? I have given up. I get really angry and really upset too because they know that this is wrong but still they do are doing it. They know about me too but still they are breaking mine and my boyfriend's heart. Please, help. I want to do something and stop this from happening as my boyfriend is not happy with this relationship, and not am I. We both are adults, therefore we are free to marry and make our own choices too. Jazakullah khayr.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Marriage is not just a social relationship with love between 2 people but it is also a relationship of two families. Islam did not allow parents to force their kids to marry against their will but at the same time did not allow kids to marry on their own without consulting and getting the blessings of parents so all new families will live in peace and support of their parents.

 

In your case, it is really all in the hands of the man you are interested in. He has to take the initiative and convince his parents. If he feels he cannot go against their will he should be honest with you and come clean and say, I cannot marry you. It is better for you and him so no emotional shock would come to either one of you.

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You can wait for a certain period of time that you estimate he has a chance to convince his parents as hoping it might work. But after that time, you need to be clear and real with yourself not to hold on to dreams that might never come true.

 

If he was meant to be your husband it will happen and if he was not, ask Allah SW to bring you better future with someone else.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

They touch me and I can feel them touching my insides.. There are either demonic presences or an entity of some kind of spirits. Whatever they are called are always touching my head, pulling my hair off by touching it --like burning it off, and also touching my stomach and my vagina area. I have noticed a spirit I know of and his presence is very known bc I am being haunted by signs showing his death date and his birth date. I am also hearing an ex bc who passed away. I hear his voice all the time. I also hear a neighbor who also passed away that I knew that has been haunting me too. I hear a presence that sounds like her mother but her mother is alive. So .. idk if she's with her parents brothers or sisters or grand father or whatever. But whatever it is, I am constantly being attacked. My head, my hair is being burned off and it's painful, I actually show a traumaticly horrible hair pattern. my stomach and my insides are also being touched and I can hear them putting and pulling things in and out of me. There is also an awful sulfur odor smelling and it's disgusting. The odor is meant to scare away people that I am friendly with. Anytime I am friendly or seeking a lover of some type to be with, they are trying to do things to make me not want to seek lovers or have any sexual relations with a living man. They are forcing me to use guides that are demons to baptize them so they can continue to possess me and attack me. Or something to that affect if not possess me and attack me their intent is to watch me constantly. I even felt I was being stalked years ago and I wasn't. I was being haunted by spirits. When I attempted to make them go away, then my parents and siblings moved. I ended up homeless and moving continuously, then I also was being attacked by these presences that was obsessing over my bank account. They wanted my money apparently bc it was alllllllll they were speaking about. These are the presences I didn't even know were presences. I actually believed I was being stalked. It wasn't living people talking haunting or antagonizing me or attacking me. Something would happen to me which was odd. My hair would start burning my face and my neck. And it was a very painful experience for me. It burns sooo badly. What is it I could do to make them go away bc I feel they are the reason my family moved, my parents separated, and my siblings and I do not get along anymore which is an unusual thing for us as a family. But since this has all begun it's been rather complex and a bumpy experience. I also ended up going to jail after an ex bf showed me how many times he went to jail. And was homeless like he was too.What can I do to make them stop interfering with me and my family ? I do not want their presences to interfere with me anymore. I also do not want any of them pursuing my family bc it is evident they are attacking my family for a family that we used to live near. Whom are Hindus. They are seeming very insulting towards Muslims tho. So I am not quite aware of what my options are. They need to leave and stop interfering with me because I do not want any of their attatxhments with me. Maybe I could speak with someone directly on WhatsApp or some way. Please email me as I need help. Keep in mind the list of things I named happening to me are mostly what these individuals have gone thru in their life from what I'm aware of. But I guess they are burning my hair off or pulling my hair off when they are not burning my hair.



Islam taught us that life is a journey of tests and trials but in that which is relevant to people’s reality. All what you have mentioned could be a mental problem that you are facing because of previous past, fear and much concern for yourself and your loved one that you like to protect from any harm.

 

I advise you to see a psychiatrist and make an evaluation to see if mental illness has to do with any of these things you are going through. Most of the issues you mentioned are things that people who might experience in the beginning can grow to be in the level of Waswasah or whispers that sometimes can take a toll on someone’s mental status.

No doubt, the recitation of the Quran morning and evening before you go to bed especially Al-Fatiha, Al-Kursi and last three small Surahs in the Quran will bring you peace and help you feel better insha’Allah.

 

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Almighty Allah knows best.

Salaam My 14 Year old son passed away on a Friday in his sleep and i it's wanted to know he did not hit puberty yet will he enter Jannah



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

May Allah bless his soul and shower him with mercy, Ameen.

Yes, by the will of Allah he will in Heaven insha Allah for all kids under the age of puberty are exempted from liability on deeds. In some narrations that kids who died under the age of puberty when asked to enter Heaven they will ask that they are accompanied by their parents and Allah and out of His Mercy will grant them that wish.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

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I know that slavery is gone to an extent but i have come across an article that refuted hijab and used the following example to do so: Al-Hassan al-Basri (d. 728 AH/110 CE) said: Slave women in Medina used to be told certain things when they went outside. (One night) some foolish people accosted a group of women and bothered (or hurt) them because they thought they were slave women, but they were actually free women. Because of this, the Prophet ordered the believing women to cast their jilbabs upon themselves, so they would be distinguished as free women, and known from the slave women, and not bothered. — Tafsir Abd al-Razzaq al-Sanani (d. 211 AH/826 CE) In here a the free woman are told to cover up and not to go uncovered like slave woman in order to be classified and not attacked. However, why are slaves not given the same opportunity to cover up and be protected from being molested? In fact Umar even prevented slave girls from wearing the veil: Imam al-Beyhaqi records in ‘Al-Sunnan al-Kubra’ Volume 2 page 227: Anas bin Malik said: ‘The slave-girls of Umar were serving us with uncovered hair and their breasts shaking” Nafe’e narrated that whenever Ibn Umar wanted to buy a slave-girl, he would inspect her by analysing her legs and placing his hands between her breasts and on her buttocks” Sunnan Al-Kubra, Volume 5 page 329 Mujahid said: 'I was walking with ibn Umar in a slave market, then we saw some slave dealers gathered around one slave-girl and they were kissing her, when they saw ibn Umar, they stopped and said: 'Ibn Umar has arrived'. Then ibn Umar came closer to the slave-girl, he touched some parts of her body and then said: 'Who is the master of this slave-girl, she is just a commodity!' Musanaf ibn Abi Shayba, Volume 4 page 289 Tradition 20240 Some sources even say how umar prevented slave women from covering in prayer and beat them if they covered up in public Anas reported: 'Umar once saw a slave-girl that belonged to us (to Anas) wearing a scarf, so Umar hit her and told her: 'Don't assume the manners of free woman.'' Musnaf Ibn Abi Shaybah, Volume 2 page 41 Tradition 6236 I was always told that the hijab was there to promote modesty and protect the integrity of the woman. How can it be if slave woman are deprived of it and portrayed with their breasts out and inspected in slave markets. Moreover it would increase temptation in public. Is the hijab prescribed to specify the free from the slave? And are Umars actions justified according to the teachings of the prophet? What is the awrah of a slave and is it different from the free woman? Does the quran talk to all believing women or just free woman in the hijab verses?



In short, most of what you have narrated is in relation to the practices of Sahabah to what was still inherited from the life around them not just in Arabia but around the world. There is no direct verse or direct authentic and clear Hadith that states the A’wrah of a slave female is different from a free girl.

 

Verse 33:59 that some used to say it is for the free women only is disputed among scholars. Ibn Taymiyyah says it is only for free women but Ibn Hazem says it is for all females regardless.

 

In other words, Fiqh scholars had different views depending on what they perceived as a practice accepted as being the status always or something that the ruling can change based on time and environment. Here are my comments in general:

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1- Slavery and such actions were practiced all around the world and were not invented by Muslims.

 

2- Imam Ibn Hazm (check his book: Al-Muhalla,) was against all that understanding and wrote lengthy how a female private areas are standard for all females regardless what status they are in. Also Imam Al-Albani supported this view.

 

3- This means that it is a matter of Ijtihad that scholars can dispute about.

 

4- As Muslims, we act on what is relevant to the proper values in relation to our environment. Now, with no slavery being practiced, the view of Ibn Hazm is the most relevant one to be implemented.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

I was naked with a woman and I decided not do zina with her. As I was lying down unaware, she grabbed my penis and inserted it into her vagina without my consent. Is this zina? I felt terrible and guilty. But I thought in my mind I did zina, I might as well do the whole act, so I had intercourses because I believed I was a zani. Am I a zani if she without my consent and knowledge surprised me by putting my penis into her vagina even though I had no intention of actually doing intercourse? She somewhat forced me in a way without my knowledge.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Being naked with a women is a form of Zina by itself.

 

You had the ability to stop her from that act but you did not, so yes it is Zina.

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And then you said, since it happened you went and did it intentionally on your own, so again it is Zina.

 

You need to repent with her and immediately stop such actions and never come back to it again unless in Halal through marriage.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Asalaamu alikum hope u r in a good healthI have a question about my brother who want to marry his first cousin. He himself likes that girl but no one else want this to happen. Because my brother was breastfeed by her mother when her elder brother was also breastfeeding and my cousin sister was not born at that time. Is it permissible for them to undergo marriage



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

No, it is not allowed for him to marry her, for nursing from the mother makes all her daughters’ sisters to him.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Assalamu Alaikum, I am planning to sell Projectors. People who buy these may use it to watch movies. Hence, I am wondering if this is a permissible (halaal) business? Will I be responsible in the eyes of Allah (swt) for any inappropriate program they watch using the projector? Jazakallah Khairan.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

Yes, it is halal to sell them for you are not liable to what type of use people can utilize such products for. Almost anything Halal we deal with in life can be used for good or evil reasons.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

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AssalamoAlaikum!I plan to have my first marriage and the girl whom i want to marry say that if i accept the condition of not having second marriage in future then she will not be having any problem in getting marry to me. Personally i also do not want to have second marriage in future, i want to spend my life with my first wife till i die. The question is that can we keep condition of not having second marriage in future during Nikah ??Looking forward to hear from you.Jazakallah Khair



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Yes, you can, for taking another wife is not obligatory in Islam, it is Mubah meaning neutral and up to each person’s choices and circumstances in life.

 

So if conditions in the Nikah contract were neither Haram nor preventing an obligation, only then we say you cannot include it in a Nikah contract.

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But if she conditioned things like to finish her study or not to move her out from the town she lives in or that you do not marry one with her and you agree to that, yes you can include it.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Assalamu alaicoum! Please, tell, who is responsible for a girl (virgin) who has never been married in the Day of Judgement? Is it her father?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

I am not sure by saying who is responsible. Everyone is responsible for his or her own deeds at the Day of Judgment.

 

But if you meant, the father prevented her from marrying a good Muslim man who came and asked for her hand and for no legitimate reasons, then yes he is liable for that in front of God.

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Parents should help bring to their daughters the best candidates that will take care of them and should focus on two main things; ethics and Deen.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaicoum! My friend is a gay. He asks, is it ok for him to communicate and stay in the same room with unveiled Muslim girls, since they do not arouse him and he is not interested in women at all. Thanks in advance.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

If you friend is Muslim, then he first should know that is it a major sin and that he should repent from that immediately.

 

As to the question, it does not matter how he feels about himself, in Islam he is considered a male and should not be exposed to unveiled women unless they are of his Mahram like mother or sister.

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Almighty Allah knows best.

Salam Alaykum, My younger brother has sadly passed away at the age of 31 on 3rd February. It was a sudden death, very shocking for the whole family. My brother was epileptic, on rare occasion he would have seizure attack, otherwise generally he was fit and healthy person, doing his day to day job. It happened one night when he decided to stay over his friend's house. He slept in a separate room where no one was there. The following day his friend found him facing on the floor dead. Doctors say that it is possible that he may have had a seizure attack, they are still investigating the case. His funeral took place last week. Although I know that Allah decrees Death, I feel like as an elder brother I should have done much more from my side, like phoning him to come home. I have been very heart broken and depressed, since he was living with me for the last 6 months. How can I relieve my depression? Can you also advise me on how I can exert my effort to benefit him now? Jazakallahu Khairan.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

May Allah accept your brother in Heaven and shower him with His Mercy, Ameen.

 

Mourning the loss of close family members or friends can take a toll on us indeed. We are humans with emotions and feelings and this is a normal phase that we all will pass through when we lose someone. Even the Prophet (peace be upon him) had tears for the loss of his son Ibrahim.

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Faith never change things destined by God to happen, but faith always helps us cope with loss and it processes grieve for us in a way of patience that helps us heal. The only thing that can help you is your faith in Allah and that he will be in a better place insha Allah. Death is not the end but rather a phase to move from the limited to the eternal life.

 

I advise you to read Quran and make good deeds in the intention on his behalf for it will translate Hasanat for him with God.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.