Wa `alaykum as-salam wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-giving

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Prophet Muhammad.

First, as a ruling and law prescribed by the Shari`ah, a Muslim may not raise objection to polygamy or any other Shari`ah ruling or law. Allah (exalted is He) says “And it is not ever for a believing man or a believing woman, when God and His Messenger have decreed a matter, to have for themselves a [contrary] choice in their affairs. For whoever disobeys God and His Messenger has truly strayed into clear misguidance” (Al-Ahzab 33:36)

Submission to Allah’s laws, whether one understands the wisdom behind them or not, is an essential part of being a Muslim.

Second, polygamy is an exception not the rule. A man is required to be just and give each wife her rights in a fair way, which is difficult for many men; otherwise, he has to face the prophetic warning “Whoever has two wives and is inclined to favor one of them over the other will come on the Day of Resurrection with half of his body leaning.”
Third, polygamy has been prescribed to achieve great purposes and solve many social problems.

1) It is the alternative of adultery that has spread in other communities that disallow polygamy as men there look for pleasure outside marriage.

2) It helps decrease the number of unmarried women in the society with all the problems this increasing number causes. 3) It is the solution of the situation when a man comes to hate his first wife but does not want to divorce her and break the family.

These are just few manifestations of the wisdom behind polygamy.

Fourth, at a personal level, a Muslim woman, after being fully pleased with such a divine law, may refuse to be a part of a polygamous relationship. She can even record her refusal in her marriage contract, because she does not have to accept this situation.

Fifth, jealousy is an emotion and feeling that only needs to be channeled in the proper way. It is a test for women to curb this emotion as it is a test for all mankind to curb their desires and emotions and channel them in a way that pleases Allah SWT.

Almighty Allah knows best.