I fully understand the gravity of this father’s behavior who looks at his children that they never grow up and looks at all circumstances as unchangeable. He does not realize differences in age, time, generations, etc.

 

Whatever this father does is not Islamic. Islam provides the father with the right to properly guide his family to the straight path. It does not provide him with an authoritarian power to dictate whatever he likes or sees Islamic. Islam instructs mercy and compassion as the basis of relations among family members.

 

Abu Hurairah reported that al-Aqra’ ibn Habis saw Allah’s Apostle (peace be upon him) kissing Hasan. He said:

 

I have ten children, but I have never kissed any one of them, whereupon Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: He who does not show mercy (towards his children), no mercy would be shown to him.

 

I think letting your daughter to leave home may aggravate the problem and make it more complicated. You need to discuss the issue frankly with your husband to make him know that he has already did a very negative impact on the personality of your daughter. You must take all possible means to make him recognize the problem to help you solve it. Moreover, you should help your daughter to get a husband who may get her out of these circumstances.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.