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Live Fatwa (General Session)

Sheikh Kifah Mustapha
28 June, 2017

Dear Brothers/Sisters,

 

Thank you very much for joining us in this Live Fatwa session. We would like also to thank our guest, Sheikh Kifah Mustapha, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers of your questions below.

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Salaam allaikum brothers I am dealing with a very unique case. I have been suffering from severe mental illness which include seeing and hearing things that are not there. Having conversations with these entities or illusions and unnatural behavior. It was bad because I was in jail and prison when this happened conditions were not good. I was able to recover but relapse every time. It's started at the age of 22 I am 30 now. I have been to the psychiatric hospital 7 or 8 times and it has been very spiritual to me. I was very close to Allah at one time but now I believe I am not. The accident happened when I was released from the jail. I was living in a motel and it was late at night. I Opened THE door To HAVE Air Circulation AND a MAN was there. He asked me for a cigarette lighter and I gave him. Then he said "no girls" I said no. Then he looked like something from my visions so I may have thought he was good. The Angels TO Me NOT To do It BUT something compelled me. Subhanallah. I copulated with his mouth for 10 to 15 seconds. Realized I was doing something very nasty then stopped and told him to leave. I made ghusal and offered taubah. Weeks later I met a man who said he was with the devil and he somehow trapped the negative homosexual energy into my body and now my body feels hot all the time. I cannot connect with women and am a outcast in my community. I can't go to masjid but I pray at home. Is this punishment from allah to expiate the sin. I done want to give up hope but I'm afraid I may die in this state. Never marry and incur Allah's wrath. I'm not homosexual but shatain has been harassing me with these people since I was a child. I FEEL As If I failed Allah's test. The women hate me and I can only be patient. Could you help somehow. I need strength.



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

 

When a person makes Tawba or repentance from any sin, Allah will accept him and forgive him. Sometimes, family and community are harsh accepting that and you must be patient.

 

You need to make sure you are clear with God and pure from ill intentions and actions and that is the most important thing.

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Having bad thoughts about homosexuality does not make you one of it as long as you do not practice it.

 

In time, worship and good deeds things will be better insha Allah.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

I separated from my husband 12 years ago when he married somebody else. Since then I am working and raising my two sons. I have not filed for divorce. Should I take divorce. I have no intention of marrying again. Will I be punished ?



You are still his wife even if separated and it is not haram to be in such post. It’s your call if you want to stay like that or end it officially by divorce both legally and islamically.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Hello, My husband met a young muslimah (15 years younger) and they have shown interest in each other. They definitely have personality and physical attraction. He has tried to convince me that she will be a good addition to our family since she is young and she can help. He loves me and wants my approval. I approved of him talking to her so they would talk and text constantly... almost every minute and make calls through the night. He finally got to a point where she was accepting of becoming a second wife (without consent of her parents because she knew they wouldn't agree). So they started "dating" and I started feeling left out as I work and care for our children. This other woman was taking up his time and I had to point out that we haven't been on a date this year and they've already had two lunch dates. It made him feel terrible but it was something I had to point out. This woman has not reached out to me in any way but is ok calling my husband in the middle of the night. I see him struggling to balance life, kids, and two women. I felt bad for him. On another note, he convinced me that the woman was assaulted and was going through issues. So he wanted to be a positive affect on her. So I let the relationship continue feeling sorry for that woman knowing she has not been very considerate of my feelings. The part that destroyed me was when she was leaving for a trip and my husband asked her to drop by the house. He told me that he wanted to say good bye for 10 minutes while I watch the kids. Ten minutes passed and the kids were asking where he was, I looked outside and no one was there. I called and he said that he's with her in the car. It was parked on the side a few houses away. It turns out that they were kissing. He was the one that suggested she park far. If I had known his intent, I would not have let him do so. I had asked him to stop the relationship and he did. After a few months, he contacted her again to make sure she's doing ok and mentally well and not suicidal. The texting continued. I asked him to silence her ringtone so I don't constantly here it throughout the night. This time I made it clear that I'm willing to leave and he can pursue her. He has made it clear to me that she will move for a career out of town in a couple months so won't be in our lives as much. I'm not sure what to do except remain patient and loving. Please advise. Note: He's a very devout muslim but I'm afraid he gives in to temptation; she has a pretty face. Is there anything you can advise me or him?



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

Islam allowed people to marry more than one wife with a condition of justice by time, care and financial support. From what you have described, it looks like more of a sexual need from your husband rather than a true responsible approach of starting a new family. Adding to that the haram way they are interacting with each other, I do not think this is the proper way to start a new family.

 

I also feel that he might need help and support from you to act properly. Stay next to him for the sake of the family and kids but with a condition.  He must stop acting in a haram way with her and be unjust to you and your kids.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Asalaam aleykum I wanted to know the ruling on performing ghusl with braids after menses. Since this makes it easier for those with Afro hair. Also after relations with one's spouse, is the ghusl of someone with an Afro hair valid if they were to pour water 3 times over their head? Since the thick nature of this hair type makes it difficult for water to reach the scalp.



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

Regardless of what type of hair you have, you need not to wash but the hair on the scalp itself, not the whole hair. That is the Hadith mentioned by Um Salamah asking the prophet (peace be upon him) and he answered that: “It is enough to wash your head three times.” (Muslim)

Almighty Allah knows best.

If a person believe in God but not on islam. He is well mannered. Good to all people in his every day life.. kept fasting in ramazan but do not pray.. and very negative about islam teachings.. is nikah with person is jaiz? I mean is it valid in islam with the hope that he ll change if you pray for him.. whenever i talk about leaving he became more hursh about islam... and says that he ll leave everything including parents. What can i do neither i can leave him nor i cn live with this situation.. i my self is not a super muslim but do my 5 times prayers and folloe the basics of islam..



If he was born as a Muslim and has some confusion about Islam and needs help understanding it (and that’s if he does not practice out of being lazy), then he must be taught and educated and helped to practice.

But if he rejects parts of Islam as a concept, then you need to be cautious as he might not be Muslim at all and it is not permissible to marry him.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalam Aleikhum I have my friend who came to visit me has we were talking he told me yesterday night he murstabe himself so he was asking his today swaum valid??? I didn't have the knowledge to answer it please can you teach me about that????



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

Masturbating during Ramadan is a sin and it breaks the fast. He must repent and try not to do it again. He also needs to make up the day after Ramadan.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Islam, like all revealed religions, calls for monotheism. To worship one God, that is the true God of the universe, is the objective of all religions. Yet, they all judge each other wrong and sinful. If the objective of all religions is one and that is monotheism, how does Islam judge Deism? Straight forward, is Deism forbidden (haram) in Islam?



It is Haram to believe in such thing because the idea of Deism is a faith in a supreme being that does not intervene in the universe. That contradicts completely with our understanding of God and how He described himself in his attributes and holy names.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Asalamualaikum , my question is why is there a huge gap between suhoor / fajr which is around 2.50 am and sunrise which is around 4.50 am.. since it mention in the Quran eat and drink until you can distinguish a thread...



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

The verse says the thread of Fajr not sunrise and that why end of Suhoor time is beginning of real fajr dawn not sunrise.

Almighty Allah knows best.

i am a medical student and i am engaged, at the time of engagement he was a good practicing muslim offer his prayers. when he started his higher studies in philosophy he is getting away from islam now he dnt beief in prophet quran and islam. though he belief in God yet. but he is good to others , he care of halal haram , infact in haquql ebad iam satisfied but he kept saying you would not discuss islam with me if i did he gets angry and get hursh about islam more, and start negative comments . if i leave him he will leave his family and rest of the islam which he is following unconsciously.. iam in a mental stress what can i do can i still marry him with the hope that he ll changed or i ll change him.. please guide me so i can have amental peace.



Rejecting faith in the prophet or the Quran is rejecting Islam itself, he would not be a Muslim at all.

Before rushing into judgment on him, set a specific time to give him a chance to change his mind and if he does not, then you cannot indeed marry him.

He will not just live as a non-believer but he will affect your faith in a bad way too I believe.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum, I have a question which I hope perhaps a learned sister or brother can assist with. I am a revert Muslim, and recently has undergone facial reconstruction surgery, in addition to additional surgeries to remove cancerous growths from my face. My question is: Is it haram to wear makeup for the sole purpose of concealing or reducing the appearance of the scars? Prior to having undergone these surgical procedures, wearing makeup was of no consequence. I am not looking at this from a vanity point of view, but rather an issue of self-esteem . Jazaka Khair.



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

Exemptions in Islam are under categories and the main one is medical. If make up or more surgeries are needed it should be fine as it is the only resort to keep your face as normal as it could be as a regular face.

Physical and mental wellness is both protected under Islam and I believe your intention is not to show (Fitnah) intimacy but rather protect your dignity. Be modest in the way you out it and it should be ok insha Allah.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Another question is how come it is a rule that Muslim men can marry only up to 4 women while the prophet (SAW) married 9? I know it is said that many of them were for political reasons. But it doesn't make sense that the prophet (SAW), knowing he will be looked up to for thousands of years to come, couldn't find any other way to resolve those political issues.



The prophet had many rules only meant for him. Like he would continue fasting without stopping or stay up all night making Salah or marrying more than 4 and all these had to do with his role as a prophet. Other prophets were like him too, Sulaiman had many wives etc.

 

One of the main reasons for his multiple marriages were teaching his wives matters of Fiqh inside the family so they can narrate it to Muslims.

 

So we do not explain the reason for his marriages in political matters but in the justice he was able to treat all of them, the education he gave them, the honor they got being family of the prophet, the social model that all his wives were either divorced or widowed except for `A’shah etc.

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Almighty Allah knows best.

How do you answer someone that asks if the Quran is the right book, but doesn't want an answer such as "because the Quran says so" or "it's the only book that hasn't been changed"? How do you prove that this is the most accurate book and the only right book, written by God? it is the biggest source of proof for everything, but is there proof to back that up? The person says that there's a lot of unfair stuff in it such as killing someone who leaves Islam, so this causes some question as to it's accuracy and "how can it be right?"



You only mention 2 points:

 

1- That it is the only Book preserved out of other Divine Books in real words. We take honor in the effort we put with our kids to memorize the while Quran by heart one generation after another.

 

2- Judge the Book by what is written in it. Let him study the Quran in a genuine approach not already self-determined to have pre-judgements on it.

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The Quran speaks of law, ethics, history, language and much more. Have him study it like any academic researcher and see what he concludes out of that.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

What to do if someone go against our Prophet PBUH? Aoa My father and sisters live in New York and rest of our family lives in Pakistan. We are planning to move USA for family reunion. I was excited for it. Had made many plans. But my thinking changed when i Read an article that wrote about a billboard in Indiana (USA) which showed hatred among our great Prophet (PBUH).Things written on the billboard was not good. It disturbed me. Now i feel guilty to move in such place where some people have no respect for our great Prophet PBUH and nothing can be done to those people who wrote such thing. I don't know if it's right to start a new life there. I need your opinion. What should i do? As a muslim what is my responsibility? Is it still ok for me to move there? Salam



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

The Sahabah lived in Makkah and Medina and pagans and hypocrites were saying all bad things about the prophet (peace be upon him). Attacks against Islam and Prophet Mohammad will never stop.

 

I suggest your plans should be based on what is good for you and your family. In almost any US State now, there are many Muslim communities living and making difference for themselves and people around them.

 

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I myself, with my family live in the US.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Did Prophet Mohammad ever say Adhaan himself?



No he did not. Scholars said that if he called Adhan and people did not respond they will get the sins of not responding to him attending group prayer (Jama`ah.)

Almighty Allah knows best.

Dear Sir Kindly guide me in a break up how many rakats farz sunnat nafl and witr i am supposed to offer as QASR PRAYERS while travelling to uk for ten days. i am on an intensive study program wth long hours of study and wont be able to fast or offer prayers during the sessions. however i offer prayers five times a day but want to know what will be the break up of my rakats for each of the five prayers. Am i also allowed to offer combined prayers at night other than fajr (which i will offer inshaallah every morning. kindly guide and i will be really obliged. looking forward to your urgent guidance please since i am travelling in four days time thanks a lot and best regards Noo



There are so many views among scholars in that matter. The most famous ones are:

 

1- You either pray Qasr for each Salat only no combination.

 

2- You pray Qasr and combination (Zuhur and Asr 2 & 2) (Maghreb & Isha 2 & 2) if the travel is for less than 2 weeks.

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3- Now as to Sunnah during travel, the practice of the prophet (peace be upon him) is that he only prayed one Rak’at Witr and two Rak’at Fajr Sunnah before the Fardd.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Is it permissible to work in a bank or hotel industry know that Pork and Bar is served there, though I would not go near the same however would be work in for a place that serves haram food and banks deal with interest. Kindly explain in the light of Shari`ah



Such work is only permitted under extreme necessity. Meaning if you do not have a job and your family will be in the street with no place to live or feed and the only job available for you is this to survive, then it is permitted for such circumstances not Halal by origin.

 

You should seek other ways to make an income that will be free from usury related income or areas that serve wine and pork.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Is there a marriage between a man and a woman who engaged in sexual activity and got satisfied but without actually making love, i.e. without having sexual intercourse?



If I understood your question properly, if two individuals had intimate relationship without intercourse can they marry each other after such haram act?

 

Yes, they can and actually it is better to do that with repentance to Allah of course from such past actions.

 

Islam allowed us to enjoy relationships responsibly in marriage and bring tranquility, love and mercy into the relationship.

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Zina or adultery is a major sin and it makes people live away from God.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Salam alaikum. My mum and her friend tend to backbite about people in my pretense. I don't want to intervene and warm them because I found it rude to intervene. What should i do in this situation? When they backbite I tend to close my ears or think about other things. JAZAk Allahu khair



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

You only owe them advice in that which is proper. Sometimes you need to make it direct sometimes indirect.

 

Backbiting is indeed a major sin and it makes problems among Muslims which are supposed to be brothers and sisters in Islam.

 

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It might be wise to see if your dad can have some input in this too.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

How to prove that these verses are not against peace ? I Need to give answers to non-believers regarding some verses which they are saying that proves that islam is not a religion of peace Those verses are on this site http://www.thereligionofpeace.com/pages/quran/violence.aspx



In short:

1- The verses are either taken out of context or verses which were meant to be for a specific incident and then introduced as a general concept which is not true.

2- The political conflict going on in the world now is explained through religious context by extremists who claim to be Muslims or Islam haters who use that against our faith.

3- You can put some time and try to study with a local Imam in your area to learn more about some controversial verses in the Quran to clear such misconceptions.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Salam. I have few questions to ask. I have been suffering from some sort of mental depression or chronic stress. I am seeing my doctor regularly. Some days I get better but mostly I am mentally disturbed. I missed many fasts last year and few fasts a year before. So total tally is now 40. I am worried about my health and days are piling up. I know I can fast later on in my life but I am worried of days piling. So am I allowed to compensate my fasts quickly by paying Fidya or any way other. I want to clear my fasts account. I am still sick and not sure about when I will recover. Secondly, I started fasting when I was 15 years old. I did fast before when I was young but not always. I was told by my parents that children fast when they reach 15. Now, I recall that I reached puberty at 10 or 11, way before 15. So what should I do now? Firstly, I was told by my parents and secondly, what should I do to clear my this account of fasts too? Last I want to ask that when I was young I was in bad company so I did masturbated while fasting and at that time I thought it doesn't break fast. So now I know that it breaks. So what should I do for these fasts as well. Kindly guide so that I should clear my fasts account. I honestly feel debt and can't live properly due to pressure. Just to tell, my mental illness got chronic when I didn't fast and was told to. Alhamdulliah I did fast this year because I am better.



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

 

You can start by paying Fidya for each day missed (feeding one person per day missed) and keep the intention to make up days if your health becomes better. I wish you wellness, but from what I understood from your description that such illness might be prolonged for quite bit of a time and that’s why I feel paying Fidya is first and sufficient insha Allah.

 

Keeping in mind your health issues you mentioned, I assume you might be able to make up these days too, so calculate in average how many years you missed and if you have the money to feed people (30 persons per each year) then you should do it. If you do not have that money, you need not to do anything at all.

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You only need to make up that day, masturbation breaks fast and the Kaffara is just making up the day.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Asslam-o-Alaikum! I wanna know that is it compulsory to join feet in a ba jamaat Salah with other person's foot? I never saw anyone do that in Saudi Arabia but here in Pakistan, people do. Is it compulsory?



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

The prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Make your rows straight, stand shoulder to shoulder and close the gaps, and do not resist your brothers’ hands. Do not leave any gaps for the Shaytan. Whoever completes a row, Allah will reward him, and whoever breaks row, Allah will forsake him.”

As you see, the shoulders are the main cause to straighten rows and keep Muslims close to each other because each person opens wide space different between his feet from the other.

Although there are some narrations about how the Sahabah used to have foot next to each other but the exact words of the prophet (peace be upon him) as mentioned above specify the shoulders. And by default, if shoulders are close to each other, the feet will be automatically.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Assalamu Alaikum warahamatullahi wabarakathuhu.I have a small question. Insha Allah next month I'm going to get married. Problem is this since we are still not settled my fiance thinks that not to have a child soon after the marriage. But still as I checked there is a high possibility of conceiving. Should I take birth controlling tablets? Is it haram?



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

To decide not to have children at all is Haram. But to regulate giving birth for children depending of circumstances is OK, and yes you can take pills or use IUD.

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Asc I have been undergoing a mental illness test the past year till now and they are still not done. I also take prescribed medication daily and I find it very hard to fast . Is fasting still obligatory for me?



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

You need to make up the missed days later if you can even in winter when days are short, or if your illness is going to last long and you must take medicine daily for good, then you only pay kaffarah for each day you missed like feeding one person per day missed.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu'alaykum. I beg you to help me. I want to make up for the missed prayer that I left deliberately because of the evidence from the hadith. However, I believe that an ignorant person does not have to make up the past prayers except the current prayer. Is it permitted for me only to make up the prayer that I missed deliberately (concerning my case in which I don't know if masturbating requires ghusl)? I have tried to make up everything that I remember, however, I read Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiya and the evidences for those who are ignorant of a ruling does not have to make it up. Can I choose this opinion while making up what I left deliberately? Also. while making up these prayers, am I not allowed to have leisure time to talk with my friends or play with my family and go to someplace? Am I required to devote the entire time to make up these prayers? I keep pushing myself but my legs hurt after several prayers each day. Please help me with a detailed answer.



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

 

Yes, you can make up the missed Salah before, regardless what the reason was. Allah is All-Merciful and will forgive anyone who repents and asks for forgiveness and try to make up things.

 

You do not have to make them up all at once, just pray with each Salah another one until you think you made them all  up even if it took you weeks.

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The prophet (peace be upon him) said: “if one forgot or slept over a Salah, let him make it up when he remembers it.”

 

Even the Hadith speaks of forgetting or sleeping, Allah has all mercy to accept people to wants to make up what they owe Him the Almighty. in another Hadith, the prophet (peace be upon him) said: “what you owe God is more honorable to be paid back.”

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Sir, i m a muslim, when i was 16 years old one day it happens that i break promise with ALLAH, after that something whisper inside me against islam, and now its too much, each and every time, i can not sleep, i can not pray i can not offer salah, its very tough for me to do azkar. I want your email adress to explain you more, i need councling.



A group of Sahabah came to the prophet (peace be upon him) complaining about the same thing you are complaining about. They said: “we hear in our conscience that which is too huge to even mention!” The prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Have you found it (such whispers?)” They said: yes. He (peace be upon him) said: “That is the true sign that you are believers.”

 

It means that you are still genuine in your faith for 2 simple reasons.

 

One you already declared that it was against Islam, so you know the truth and you feel it is attacked; it means you are a good Muslim trying to protect yourself.

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Second, you email us seeking help which means you want to be free from such whispers and that is also another sign of faith.

 

As to what you can do, just 3 simple things:

1- get busy doing good deeds,

2-  learn more about the Shari`ah and

3- let time pass and it will fade out insha Allah.

Almighty Allah knows best.

"Allah Himself says " The stamp has been put on their hearts, so they will not come to right path" Than they (non-believers) have been deprived to come back to understand Islam? they are forcefully denied, why Allah has done so?



First, Allah the Almighty said: “Thus when they swerved [from the right path] God caused their hearts to swerve [from right guidance}.” (As-Saff 61:5)

 

In other words, Allah processed that which people chose for themselves. The same thing is for believers seeking guidance, Allah the Almighty said: “Those who strive for Us, We shall most surely guide them upon Our pathways [to salvation].” (Al-`Ankabut 29:69)

 

Second, Allah the Almighty spoke of these people’s nature that even when they are resurrected and were able to see the whole truth if they were send back to live again they go back to their nature of rejecting the truth. “If they were to be returned [to the world] they would revert to all [the ways] that have been forbidden].”  (Al-An`am 6:28)

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So, God the All-Knowing knew their nature and what they chose for themselves. So, He processed it to them that the hearts were in some sort of a seal or stamp.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Assalamu alaikum, I have this burning question that has been bugging me for quite a while now, I thought I'd ask you because I've read a couple of the threads here and you seemed qualified to answer. I have a friend who has a link. With a being. It's NOT a jinn. I know. I've asked. He told me I don't want to tell you what it is. I don't know why he doesn't, but I'm way too curious to let it slide. So I thought you might be able to answer. My question is, my friend has this kind of ability to ask that being a question and 'he' (emphasis on the gender) can answer it. For example, I asked him, where is my brother, at first he tried to act smart. He told me, "at home?" I said, "No." He then said: "Out??" I again denied. A couple seconds later, after closing his eyes he told me, "Rahmatu Allah". He got it right ... the man barely knows me. When I got closer to him he told me the story on how he was able to gain this ability, this link, but he just won't tell me what kind of being is it. That's my only question. Thank you and jazaka Allahu khairan.



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

I truly think he was just guessing and it worked out for him. The inner thoughts of humans are protected in the world of (ghayb) unknown, no one has access to it but God and the person himself.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu Alaikum. I've a question about salah, suppose I'm joining Maghrib in the 3rd rak`ah, where only al-fatiha is prayed. Should I pray another surah along with al-fatiha, since that would be first rak`ahs? And then when the jama`ah has completed the prayer, I will complete the other 2 rak`ahs. 2nd rakaat with alfatiha n another surah, sit for attahayaata and then 3rd rak`ahs with only alfatiha. Please clarify. Jazakallah khair.



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

You are joining the Jama`ah prayer but since you are late, the number of rak`ahs and sequence is yours. So, the first (last behind imam) and second you read small surah and last one you do not have to read a small surah.

Almighty Allah knows best.

As-Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh. I'm suffering from stress. I have a hard time to pray Isha and Fajr on time. Where I'm living, Isha starts around 10 o'clock. When I'm done praying for Maghrib, I will use the computer or do something else and then all of the sudden my eyes will become heavy. I end up sleeping and may miss Isha. Then when I wake up for Fajr, I cannot get up from my bed, because my lower back aches, so I delay Fajr as well. Could you please give me your wise suggestion on how to pray these two prayers on time? I have been struggling for this for the past several days. Thank you.



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh

 

Summer time is always a challenge. Allergies come and cause fatigue to body, stress especially sinus and our time irregularity affects our ability to maintain Salah on time especially the late `Isha’ and early Fajr. If you add to that the fresh exit from Ramadan in which many people change their sleep habits it becomes more challenging.

 

My advice is to take it easy on yourself and believe that you can fix this insha Allah.

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Time is the main factor in two ways:

 

One is to regulate your sleep habits to get enough sleep for the body and mind to rest.

 

Second is that you need time to fix it maybe a week or more.

 

Finally, in case you missed any Salah because you slept make sure you make it up. If you felt you could not pray `Isha’ on time, try to wake up later in the proper time before midnight or even if you have to, before Fajr. Even if it’s makruh (disliked) to delay it that long but it’s better not to delay it till after Fajr.

 

I ask Allah to give you strength and wellness.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalam Alaikum WaRahmtullahi WaBarkatahu What is the Wright way to divorce, I am away from my wife since last 4 months as I am fed up with her psychological problem and always suspicious on different issues she don't allow me to leave in peace. My wife is always suspicious that I am not fair to her and children. Despite asking several times why she feels insecure with me and what makes you that such question arise in her mind. I do my best to keep her happy which I am failing continuously since my marriage. I married in may 2011. I am confused with her behavior and consult to some few Islamic knowledgeable people they advice me to make Duwa and also consult to psychologist. I fulfil my duties of nikah like providing better food, cloths, shelter and I have 2 children's and do fulfill all there basic needs according to my income. Alhamdullilah I am doing my best to my wife and children, but she never trust me that I am fair to her I don't know why she is always confused myself and my family is much worried due to her behavior. Several times the issues has been taken to my wife's parents to solve the issues but she never listen to anyone and always and continuously she is fight or argue with different issues and topics I am much worried about my children's future and they too getting disturb because of our relationship. She says me that I cannot keep her happy, and claims that I am going to marry someone and always pick different issues and fight with me and regularly complain about my family that they don't treat fair which is totally incorrect. We are leaving together since last five years no one with us but she use to complain on many issues like why I am late from office, is there anyone you spend time with or you have married to someone I am totally fed up with answering the same questions. When I start ignoring her such questions it increases in fighting feed up with her suspicious i went to India drop her and came back to Saudi Arabia. I don't know what to do myself and my family members are feed up with her behavior. Please advice me what shall I do sometime I feel that I should divorce her but I am worried it will disturb the future of my children, which my wife never want to understand. Please help me with your valuable suggestions. Allahafiz



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh.

In most cases, when a spouse describes the other spouse complaints, we read only the effects but not much the causes. What you have listed about your wife are concerns from her side in what it seems to be a trust issue.

 

Of course, as an Imam I do not like to advise anyone of divorce at all but rather try to reconcile with her and keep the family together. Here are my tips for you:

 

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1- Choose a time when she is in a good mood to talk seriously about this relationship and it’s affection on you and the kids and what things you can do about it.

 

2- Start with the basic rights in Islam, that as a husband you owe her good treatment and average Nafaqa or financial support. She owes you to obey you as long as you do not tell her something Haram or against Islam.

 

3- Try to have her talk what is the reason she does not feel happy. Is it about herself like feeling overwhelmed? Is it about pressure raising kids and keeping up with marriage duties? Try to have her speak her mind so she can help you help her.

 

4- Be patient yourself. People are living hardships on all levels. You need to see your wife as you are going to support her not just judging her for her moods or attitudes.

 

5- If you were able to figure out the real origin of the problem, try together to put a plan and a timeline to measure the actions taken and progress to fix things.

 

6- Finally, if you really thing she is suffering some mental health issues, ask her if she can be checked by a psychologist or even psychiatrist.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

A.alaikum. May Allah reward you all abundantly for your efforts. I have a question regarding the following hadith from Sahih Muslim - Anas b. Malik reported that Umm Sulaim narrated it that she asked the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) about a woman who sees in a dream what a man sees (sexual dream). The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: In case a woman sees that, she must take a bath. Umm Sulaim said: I was bashful on account of that and said: Does it happen? Upon this the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Yes (it does happen), otherwise how can (a child) resemble her? Man's discharge (i. e. sperm) is thick and white and the discharge of woman is thin and yellow; so the resemblance comes from the one whose discharge/fluid prevails or dominates.The hadith talks about the resemblance of the child in the context of ‘sexual fluid/discharges’. My understanding is that the woman’s sexual fluid/discharge does not contain any fertilization substances. A woman has ‘follicular fluid’ each month that contains the ovum. The fluid mentioned in the above hadith was in the context of ‘a woman's wet dream/sexual discharge’. How would one correlate that to the current scientific knowledge?JazakaAllah Kheir



Wa `Alaykum As-Salamu Wa-ramatullah Wa-barakatuh.

My first intake on this is that the term (resemblance) could be in relation to the gender of the infant not the physical appearance. If that is the case, the narration in Al-Bukhari, Ahmad and others spoke about this angle of resemblance of gender: “if a man’s discharge dominates over the women’s, the child will be male by Allah’s leave. If a woman’s discharge dominates the man’s, then the child will be female, by Allah’s leave.”

 

As you know, the husband’s sperm carries both male and female gender in it XX & XY, and in order for the sperm to reach the woman’s egg, it must go through the woman’s discharge. Now the sperm is alkali and the woman’s fluid is acidic and that’s how we can understand the resemblance in relation to gender by the domination WATER.

 

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Pay attention that the prophet (peace be upon him) did not say which water. And here some people are confused between the intimate or arousing fluid and other discharges.

 

On another note, not long time ago if you spoke to any physician about female prostate, they would make fun of you. But lately, researchers are talking about Skene’s Gland and its relativity to sexual discharge by females during intercourse.

 

It spoke about matching men’s prostate except no sperms in it and it is located next to the urine discharge area by females. Research is still going on if such fluid has to do with a baby’s formation or not.

 

Now this fluid does discharge during wet dreams by females. I do not think we should rush into conclusions in this area and reject an authentic Hadith because we did not encompass its science nor that we make a judgment on a research matter that is not final and absolute yet.

 

Would science tell us in the future abut a direct relation in resemblance to the physical appearance? We do not know yet. For now I see it as resemblance in relation to the gender only.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.