Assalamu alaikum sir, we are very eager to teach men they should marry women & procreate children but do we think about women? We are not interested to recognize how marriage has become trap for women. We are not worried about how marriage harms them. I think many people have got vibes that, in Islam husband is boss of wife & has exclusive right to play god over wife. And many people assume Islam as misogynistic religion. It has become emergency to know the truth before further damage. I'm requesting you to reply & clarify all questions I've written here so that we have no confusion about this matter. And I also feel it's urgent for scholars who really care about true image of Islam should discuss this issue in khutbah & fatwa.Thanks" Do men have right to control his wife's every moves with every do's & don'ts? Husband is lord, & master, wife is slave, that's the actual thing? Can husband stop wife from pursuing her dreams & goals? Does husband have right to feel envious towards wife & compete with her because she is more talented & better than him in every aspect? Can husband stop his wife's growth as potential human being in every possible ways? Can he restrict her life by stopping her from doing any halal things? Can husband cut her basic human right of freedom? Can husband snatch his wife's joy by stopping her from doing any halal hobby/projects/ works/creative things she likes? Can husband stop his wife from using her personal devices & things even those things are her own? Can he stop her source of entertaimment & relaxation even it is halal? Can husband isolate her by cutting all people from her life including parents,siblings,relatives,neighbours,friends & restrict her movement outside home? Is wife bound to be submissive to husband? Is the wife only one who must compromise & suffer silently?And my final question is wife bound to comply with her husband's whims, fancies & male ego by destroying her uniqueness as a human being otherwise she is doomed in hell forever?"
Wa alaykum assalam warahmatullah
In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-giving
All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon Prophet Muhammad.
In principle, men and women are equal as human beings. They are responsible before their Creator and will be held accountable on the Day of Judgment. Each one will be rewarded or punished according to his/her deeds.
We read in the Quran “Whoever does righteous deeds, whether male or female, and is a believer, We shall, most surely, cause him to live a good life. Moreover, We shall, most surely, recompense [all of] them with their reward, [in accordance] with the very best they ever did.” [16:97]
The best in the sight of Allah is the most righteous. Gender makes no difference in this regard.
The Quran declares “O humankind! Indeed, We have created [all of] you from a [single] male and female. Moreover, We have made you peoples and tribes, so that you may [come to] know one another. And, indeed, the noblest of you, in the sight of God, is the most God-fearing of you.” [49:13]
However, Islam is the religion of justice and equity. It has prescribed rights and duties of men and women in accordance with justice. But justice does not necessitate absolute equality.
When there are significant differences between two persons, or even two things, and you treat them equally, you simply do injustice. Differences between men and women are indisputable.
The All-Wise Creator fashioned men and women with such physical and psychological differences that enable each gender to perform the prescribed role in this world in the best way.
If we understand this Islamic philosophy, it will become easy for us to understand the Islamic unique perspective to gender issues.
For detailed answers about your questions and even more, you may refer to a fatwa session dedicated to women issues in the link below:
Almighty Allah knows best.