Question 1 – Strange behavior of my wife

Aaslam o Alaikum,

My wife had strange behavior towards me. I really do not know why. We are not able to consummate our marriage for 2 years now. We are engaged in other intimate activities. But my wife do not like to go further with me. Even now after 2 years she started behaving rudely towards me when ever i try to be romantic, try to hug her or kiss her she push me away. She say that she do not like doing it and do not want to be intimate. I really love her.

One day i was really mad and started to discuss topic with my wife about starting our relation properly but she refused to have intercourse with me. She insisted to keep our relation same as it is (To satisfy my self in other way, not by intercourse). I got frustrated and in frustration i told my parents about issue. They called her parents about this problem. She refused that it is even a issue and called me liar. As she was at her fathers home when this happened. So she refused to come home and said everyone that i can not respect her.

My intention was to solve problem not to increase it. As i tried to convince her in every manner, i said her to seek professional help. But she refused. Everything happened so fast that i do not know what to do. Her parents also support her and do not want to send her back. I am very depressed because i loved her alot. Now i really regret and blame myself that i should not have told anyone about our issues. Please tell me what should i do now.

She will probably take khula now and i do not wish to marry anyone. Because I lover her deeply. I do not want to live any more because she is not with me.

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Question 2 – Fighting waswas

Assalamualaykum, I became a proper Muslim only 2 years ago. I firstly started with praying the obligatory prayers with my mother to doing dhikr and to wearing the hijab and proper Islamic clothing. All this was making me happy until the waswas started.

When it started, I had no idea there was anything like satanic whispers or didn’t care about them, so I just listened because they were mild, but then they kept growing and got worse to a point that I felt nervous just praying alone without any congregation. Then I fought some of it and became able to pray alone and within a normal timeframe. But the waswas got into my wudu and when I would use the restroom, I felt like some drops of urine would come out after I’m done or I would fart a little bit. But after some time, I got out of that too.

Then I started feeling like I didn’t remove the discharge from my private area after urinating and this is what I’m dealing with now and my wudu takes 10 minutes because I feel like the water didn’t reach in all of the space (especially ears, which alone takes me 3-5 minutes). Because of all this, I don’t like praying or worshipping Allah, I just can’t feel Allah SWT in anything at all. When I’m about to finish menstuating and start praying, I feel like I’m about to be caged up or be burdened with all this.

I know it’s waswas and I should avoid it but I just don’t know how to. What if the water really didn’t reach all the places? What if there’s still some discharge that I need to remove and if I don’t, it’ll invalidate my wudu (this thought comes even after I washed the area for 15 minutes or more). How can I fix this and love worshipping Allah SWT again? Thanks for the answer.

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Question 3 – emergent

How should a son who’s parents are divorced keep the relations with the parent he’s not living with? Should he visit the parent that hes not living with if the parent has kicked him out of the house and wroged him? When does a son lose obligation toward his parent?

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Question 4 – My Husband Gambling issue

Assalomu Aleykum, I have been married for 2 years now and have one child. My husband and I have been having some issues and we argue a lot lately. Most of the argument is about him going to Casino to gamble. I don’t like and don’t support him going to Casino, I have tried to stop him alot but it isn’t working. I told him many times that he should stop gambling or I will leave him. He tells he that he loves me and he wont never let me go. Many times he told me he will stop but it’s been about 2 years now. I heard he used to gamble before we got married too.

The other day when I tried to stop him he got super upset and started to shake and yelled at me. I love him but can’t keep living like this if he keeps doing these things. Please give me advise on how to help him. Or do I have the right to leave him? Thank you.