Q:

Assalamu alaikum, Are women in general & wife in particular considered calamity according to Islamic rulings?

A:

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu waRahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

Woman has been described in the Quran as a source of tranquility for man. Allah says in the Quran, “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” (Ar-Rum 30:21)

Wives have also been described by the Prophet as, “counterparts of men” (Sunan Abu Dawud)

She shared paradise with Adam, “Dwell you and your wife in the Paradise and both of you freely with pleasure and delight of things therein as wherever you will, but come not near this tree or you both will be of the Zalimun (wrongdoers).” (Al-Baqarah 2:35)

Therefore, there is nothing in Islam to claim that wives are a source of calamity.

The Messenger of God said, “The most perfect of believers in belief is the best of them in character.  The best of you are those who are the best to their women.” (At-Tirmidhi)

The Prophet of Mercy tells us that a husband’s treatment of his wife reflects a Muslim’s good character, which in turn is a reflection of the man’s faith.  How can a Muslim husband be good to his wife?  He should smile, not hurt her emotionally, remove anything that will harm her, treat her gently, and be patient with her.

Almighty Allah Knows best.