Was there a mistake in the way my Nikkah was handled?

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.


Let me first cite for her one of my earlier answers on the essential requirements of a marriage contract in Islam:


“The minimum conditions for the validity of nikah are the following:


The consent of the guardian of the woman; presence of witnesses; offering and acceptance and mahr (dower).


Once the above conditions have been fulfilled, the marriage will be deemed as valid; but if these conditions are not fulfilled, then it will be considered as being null and void.


As far as the consent of guardian is concerned, it can only be dispensed with if the guardian is simply refusing to give consent for considerations other than Islamic, in which case the judge can authorize the marriage after having followed the due process. If, on the other hand, such is not the case and no attempt was made to ascertain the consent of the guardian, then such a marriage would be considered invalid and, therefore, unacceptable in Islam. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “There is no (valid) marriage without a guardian and two reliable witnesses.”


By stipulating the above-mentioned conditions for the validity of marriage, Islam insists that a marriage should remain distinct from other loose and immoral lifestyles such as fornication and illicit affairs. Hence, the Prophet insisted on making marriages public.”


The primary intent of these requirements is to ensure that marriage is not a secret affair; rather, it should be a social contract recognized in the community.


Therefore, from what you have stated, the way your nikah was conducted fulfills those requirements. Thus, no one should object to its validity. You can rest assured you have not breached any of the pre-requisites.


You may do well to remember the wisdom of Imam Ash-Shafi`i: “Pleasing everyone is not a goal one can attain.” So, one should focus on pleasing Allah while staying away from hurting His servants and being kind to them as best as one can.


I pray to Allah to inspire us to shun the frivolous and focus on important things.


Almighty Allah knows best.

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