Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh,

We begin by sincerely thanking all our respected brothers and sisters who have sent in their valuable questions for this live fatwa session. Your eagerness to seek knowledge and clarity in matters of faith is a true sign of sincerity and devotion.

We also extend our heartfelt gratitude to our honorable guest scholar, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, who has graciously taken the time to answer these questions with wisdom and guidance from the Qur’an and Sunnah.

Below, you will find the answers to the questions that were submitted. We pray that they bring benefit, remove doubts, and guide us all toward a stronger understanding and practice of our religion.

Question 1:

I have a question regarding E codes. I live in Europe and most of the stuff here has E codes. Even ice creams or buns. Some of them are E470, E471, E481… My question is are these codes haram? It is so hard to find halaal food. One more question : are mono and di glirecidos halal in ice creams and bakery stuff or not? Cuz I don’t know if they are from plants or animals. Kindly answer these 2 question. Thank you so much!

Answer 1:

I commend you for your concern, which shows your care to stay away from that which is haram. However, let me come directly to the question.

Many food additives, such as E-codes (E470, E471, E481) and mono- and diglycerides, are not automatically haram. Their ruling depends on the source: if they come from plants or are made synthetically, they are halal; but if they are derived from pork or animals not slaughtered according to Islamic law, they are haram.

The challenge is that food labels often do not specify the origin. In such cases, the ingredient is regarded as doubtful. E471 is especially important to verify, since it can come from either plant or animal sources.

If a product is labeled halal certified, vegetarian, or 100% plant-based, you can generally trust it to be safe.

For Muslims who wish to guard their faith and practice caution, the best approach is to choose foods that are clearly labeled halal or vegetarian, or to contact the manufacturer for confirmation.

In many regions, such as Europe, plant-based emulsifiers are widely used due to vegetarian and vegan demand, but certainty is always better than assumption. As the Qur’an reminds us, “Eat from what is lawful and pure”(Al-Baqarah 2:168)

Out of love for Allah and concern for your spiritual well-being, avoiding doubtful matters is the surest way to keep your diet wholesome, nourishing both body and soul.

Question 2:

I wanted to ask that is it ok to stay unmarried in islam for life.Then what does this hadith means.I read it in surah nur verse 32 tafsir. Why would holy prophet call unmarried ppl worst of all.

Is it ok to be single if one is totally not inclined to opp gender and there is a fear of responsibilities and fear of(hurting your spouse or neglecting them/lack of interest in raising children/engaging in polygamy/or simply not wanting it)even if one is totally healthy and capable of getting married.I don’t ever wanna get married,I just want to be a researcher and stay single fr life while being chaste.Wht is the “status” and authenticity of this hadith.Now everytime I work it haunts me bcz I’m unmarried so god will punish me or I can be worst of all but I am more afraid of marriage.Did prophet even say it.I’m not into sexual stuff and I’m afraid of ending up with a hyper-sexual partner and then neglecting them.And there is soo much anxiety n fear of being with someone who doesn’t want me or desires to be polygamous,I’d rather be single.Plz clarify this hadith.Is it obligatory to get married,if not then why would prophet call such ppl as “worse” of all.Plz do reply.It would be v.kind of u to understand me.It is reported in Masnad of Ahmad that the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) enquired from Sayyidna ` Akkaf whether he had a wife, to which he replied in the negative. Then the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) enquired whether he had a lawful slave girl. He again replied in the negative. Then he asked ` Do you have the means?’ To this he replied in the affirmative. The purpose of this enquiry was to find out whether he possessed the means to arrange his marriage, to which he answered in the positive. After that the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said ` In that case you are a brother of Shaitan, for our sunnah is to get married. The worst persons among you are those who are unmarried, and the most mean among your men are those who die without marrying’. (Mazhari).This narration plzz tell me and clarify me abt it.Thank u sm.

Also tell me wht is the “authenticity”+”status” of this hadith and why is it cited in tafsir.Plz I understand that many of the great islamic scholars like al-nawwi was unmarried fr life but I want to know wht about prophets.Staying single is to much condemned but I am sure I would never be able to cope up with marriage bcz I hv so much anxiety and fear of falling into polygamy or divorce or not being just enough and responsibilities.Also there is ahadith where like umar(R.A) said that married women r like “captives”/”slaves” wth u.I don’t wanna end up like that.The concept of islamic marriage sounds more like a slave-master relationship.Plus,a women is condemned (sent lanat) for divorce for no reason(who knows wht is a valid one) in abu-dawood so if once she gets married she can’t escape the loophole.Also refusing intimacy is also considered a big sin like in a hadith in bukhari.It sounds all so horrifying.And I am genuinely concerned about my faith.PLz make sure to reply or at least inform me for the live session where u will discuss it as I am v.anxious, u might save someones faith.Thank u so much

Answer 2:

Your question revolves around whether it is permissible to remain unmarried in Islam. The short answer is: yes, it is allowed if a person can be assured of guarding themselves from falling into sin. 

Marriage in Islam is a noble sunnah and a blessed way of life, but it is not an absolute duty for everyone. The Qur’an encourages marriage (24:32), and it becomes obligatory only if one fears falling into sin. If a person can remain chaste and feels no inclination to marry, it is permissible to stay single.

The hadith you mentioned about “the worst of people being unmarried” is weak and not reliable. The Prophet (peace be upon him) never condemned those who remained unmarried.

In fact, some of the greatest Prophets themselves—such as `Isa (Jesus, peace be upon him) and Yahya (John the Baptist, peace be upon him)—lived their entire lives unmarried, yet they are counted among the most honored servants of Allah.

Likewise, towering scholars like Imam Ibn Jarir al-Tabari, Imam al-Nawawi, and Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyya also remained single, dedicating their lives to knowledge, worship, and service. Their examples remind us that dignity and nearness to Allah are not tied to marriage, but to sincerity and Taqwa.

The Prophets generally married, and the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) encouraged it as a sunnah, but Islam does not compel what brings hardship or anxiety. A woman is not a captive in marriage—she is a partner with rights and dignity. If marriage brings overwhelming difficulty, you are not sinful for choosing to remain single while protecting your faith and well-being.

Remember: Allah judges you by your sincerity and devotion, not by whether you marry or not.  Remaining chaste, faithful, and true to Him is in itself a form of worship.

Question 3:

I had a serious argument with my husband. He was under intense stress from work and the situation escalated. During the argument, he said: “I will divorce you now,” and I responded by saying “Go ahead, say it,” and repeated that. Then he uttered the words of divorce.

However, I was on my menstrual period at that time. He did not really intend divorce, and he was extremely angry and emotionally overwhelmed. Later that same day, he took me back without involving anyone or informing any third party.

My questions are:
1. Does this divorce count Islamically?
2. Does his emotional state and lack of serious intention affect the validity of the divorce?
3. Is our return to the marriage valid without informing anyone?

Please advise me clearly, and may Allah reward you.

Answer 3:

If a husband issues divorce while his wife is menstruating, the divorce still counts, but it is sinful and against the Sunnah. The Prophet (peace be upon him) was displeased when Ibn `Umar did this, yet he confirmed it as valid and instructed him to reconcile properly (Muslim, 1471).

As for divorce in anger, scholars explain that if the anger is mild or strong but the husband is still aware of his words, the divorce is valid. Only in extreme uncontrollable rage—when one loses awareness of speech—does the divorce not count. Clear words of divorce take effect even without “intention,” while indirect words depend on intention.

Because this was a first divorce, reconciliation during the waiting period is allowed and valid. It does not require witnesses or public announcement, though both are recommended. Simply saying, “I take you back,” or resuming marital relations is enough (Al-Baqarah 2:228).

A gentle reminder:
These moments are heavy, and anger often leads to regret. Remember that Allah is al-Rahman al-Rahim—Most Merciful and Compassionate. Islam gives space for reconciliation and healing. Take this as an opportunity to strengthen your bond, improve communication, and seek Allah’s help together. Pray for each other, and recite often this supplication:

Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhurriyyatina qurrata a`yunin waj`alna lil-muttaqina imama
“O our Lord, grant us from our spouses and our children the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the righteous.” (Al-Furqan 25:74)

May Allah bless your marriage with mercy, peace, and renewed love.

Question 4:

I have been taking medication to stop my periods prior to coming for my umrah. But I ended up getting my periods before my umrah
Will I still be able to perform my umrah?

Answer 4:

My dear sister, menstruation does not prevent you from beginning your `Umrah. You may enter ihram, make your intention, recite the talbiyah, engage in du`aʾ and dhikr, and recite Qur’an from memory.

The only rite you cannot perform is Tawaf (circumambulation of the Ka`bah), because it requires ritual purity. The Prophet (peace be upon him) told `Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) when she got her period during Hajj: “Do everything that a pilgrim does, except Tawaf of the House, until you are pure.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Once your period ends, simply make ghusl and complete your Tawaf, followed by sa`i between As-Safa and Al-Marwah. If your period ends before leaving Makkah, you can finish your `Umrah without any problem; if not, you must wait until you are pure, as Tawaf is a pillar that cannot be skipped.

And if your menstruation continues and you are prevented from completing `Umrah, do not worry. Allah is Merciful, and He does not burden us beyond our ability. The Prophet (peace be upon him) assured his companions at Khaybar that those left behind in Madinah due to circumstances beyond their control shared in the reward as if they had joined the expedition. Likewise, if you intended `Umrah but were unable to complete Tawaf due to menses, Allah—out of His mercy—will still grant you the full reward of your `Umrah. Rest assured, Allah does know your intention.

Question 5:

someone takes an oath that if they do a thing they will become kafir thinking that he actually will become kafir, but now he realize he will not become kafir because breaking oath where someone says he will become kafir doesn’t mean he becomes one, so if the person breaks this oath and doesn’t expiate for it will he become kafir?

Answer 5:

First, let me tell you that you should take comfort in the fact that breaking such an oath does not make you a disbeliever. Islam is far too great and merciful to tie someone’s faith to the slip of a tongue. Faith rests in belief, not in rash words spoken out of anger, fear, or ignorance. Saying, “If I do this, I’ll be a kafir” is a sinful and invalid form of oath, but breaking it does not expel anyone from Islam.

Instead, it is treated like any other broken oath (yameen). Allah says:
{Allah will not call you to account for thoughtless oaths in your speech, but He will hold you to account for the oaths you have sworn in earnest. The expiation is to feed ten needy people with the average of what you feed your own families, or clothe them, or free a slave. But if any of you cannot afford that, then fast three days. That is the expiation for your oaths when you have sworn.}(Al-Ma’idah 5:89)

Do not let whispers of doubt disturb your heart—your Islam is safe. Avoid such oaths in the future and, if needed, say instead: “By Allah, I will/will not do this.” 

If you have broken the oath, fulfill the Kaffarah (expiation) with sincerity and then move forward. Allah is al-Ghafur (Most Forgiving) and al-Rahim (Most Merciful). He values the faith in your heart, not slips of the tongue.

To conclude,  Breaking this kind of oath does not make you a disbeliever. At most, it requires expiation, as the Qur’an teaches in 5:89. Your faith remains intact, and Allah’s mercy far outweighs your fears.

Question 6:

Is it halal to post photos of oneself on social media? Is it different than sharing them with others? Is there a difference in sin for the man and the woman (as in, permissible for men but impermissible for women)? I have seen a lot about both sides but a lot of it is deeply confusing and I simply can’t wrap my head around what some articles say as I have heard that as long as awrah is covered it is okay (because social media holds the same regard as a public space), but I have also heard that it is sinful because it exposes beauty purposefully. I know intention is important but I merely seek more insight to this question based on the vast responses I’ve heard.

I would love if Sheikh Ahmad Kutty could respond as I have learned a lot from him and would like to hear a response in line with his views. Thank you.

Answer 6:

My dear brother/sister, I understand your concern—this is a question many Muslims face in today’s digital world. May Allah guide you to what protects your dignity and strengthens your faith.

In Islam, posting one’s photo is not automatically haram. The key concerns are modesty (hayaʾ) and intention (niyyah). If the `awrah is properly covered and the image is respectful—not intended to display vanity or attraction—then scholars generally permit it, just as being seen respectfully in a public space is permitted. This applies to both men and women.

That said, social media often encourages showing beauty for likes and attention, which can lead to pride, misuse of images, or unwanted attention. For this reason, many scholars advise extra caution—especially for women—since photos can easily be misinterpreted or misused by others.

Sharing a photo for genuine needs, such as identification, family, or educational purposes, is fine. But posting images purely to attract attention or admiration is discouraged, even if the dress is technically modest.

 If you sense in your heart that sharing a picture may invite vanity, temptation, or harm, then it is better to refrain. The Prophet (peace be upon him) taught us: “Leave what makes you doubt for what does not make you doubt.” (At-Tirmidhi)

In the end, Islam does not seek to restrict you unnecessarily—it seeks to preserve your dignity and protect your heart. Choose the path that brings you peace with Allah and keeps your faith strong.

Question 7:

My whole family is Muslim alhamdulillah and I was born in a Muslim country but I made many mistakes, turned away from Islam, and committed disbelief and shirk many times. I even swore to never return and declared that I would fight against Allah forever. Later, I regretted everything and began to repent sincerely, and I still seek forgiveness. My family found out about my situation, although I didn’t tell them the full truth. They showed compassion and reminded me that Allah is merciful.

But I read something that deeply scared me: if a person becomes a disbeliever and their family supports them or doesn’t feel sorrow, they too may fall out of Islam. Now I fear that my past may have harmed not only me, but my family’s faith as well. What should I do? Should i repent every day and tell my family repent?

And I have made many vows that I don’t even remember, which I don’t know about and which are disrespectful to Allah, and which involve disrespect and shirk against Allah many times and not returning to Islam and faith. Can I repent from these vows or will they prevent me from returning to Islam forever, what should I do? I have done so much disbelief in Allah, I have committed shirk many times and I have disobeyed Allah with words of oath, now I am ashamed to ask Allah for forgiveness, even if I repent Will Allah forgive even me?

Answer 7:

My dear brother/sister in faith, I can sense the heavy burden you are carrying. Please know that your fear, shame, and regret are themselves signs of life in your heart—for only a heart that believes in Allah trembles at the thought of displeasing Him.

Allah’s Mercy is Greater than Any Sin

 Allah says: “O My servants who have wronged themselves, do not despair of Allah’s mercy. Surely Allah forgives all sins. He is the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful.” (Az-Zumar 39:53)

No matter how many times you have fallen, His door is always open. Even the gravest sins are forgiven with sincere repentance. The Prophet (peace be upon him) assured us: “The one who repents from sin is like the one who never sinned.” (Ibn Majah)

What This Means for You

You do not need to recall every past oath or slip of the tongue—sincere repentance wipes them all away. Your family’s faith is not harmed by your mistakes; each soul is only accountable for its own deeds. Their care for you is a mercy, not a burden.

What to Do Now

• Repent sincerely: turn to Allah with regret and resolve not to return.
• Stay connected: pray, read Qur’an, and make du`aʾ, even in small steps.
• Balance fear with hope: despair is from ShayTan; hope is from Allah.
• Keep your tongue alive with Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilayh (I seek Allah’s forgiveness and turn to Him).
  Allah’s mercy outweighs His wrath (Al-Bukhari and Muslim). You are not too far gone. Your tears and longing to return make you closer to Allah than before. Trust His promise—He did not guide you back to reject you, but to embrace you with forgiveness and love.

Du`aʾs for Forgiveness

• Allahumma innaka `afuwwun tuhibbul-`afwa fa`fu `anni.
  “O Allah, You are Most Forgiving, and You love to forgive, so forgive me.”

Allahumma ighfir li dhanbi kullahu diqqahu wa jillahu wa awwalahu wa akhirahu wa `alaniyatahu wa sirrahu.
“O Allah, forgive me all my sins—the small and the great, the first and the last, the hidden and the open.”

Question 8:

I live in my home country with my special needs unmarried son and I am also presently looking after the everyday requirements of my aged mother.

I have only one sibling brother who stays permanently in another country and therefore he is not in a position to take care of my mother.

My husband resides alone overseas where he runs a retail business and sends money for my expenses regularly.

My husband feels that I should leave my aged mother to be taken care of by a paid servant and wants me and my son to come stay with him in the country of his residence as he is having health issues of his own.

However, my mother does not trust anyone besides me in looking after her daily needs. Hence she is very much against me leaving her to go stay with my husband.

Because of immigration issues and other personal reasons, she prefers to live only in our hometown and is not in favour of residing with me and my husband in a foreign country.

Due to this long standing migration dispute, my husband shows resentment towards me for not obeying him in coming to stay with him in the country of his residence despite knowing that my mother doesn’t have anybody else (she doesn’t rely on other people) but me to look after her.

Being the only daughter to my mother, am I committing a grave sin in disobedience to my husband with regards to caring for my old mother ?

How can I strike a balance between my husband and my mother without neglecting my duties towards them ?

Please advice. JazakAllahu Khairan

Answer 8:

My dear sister, I truly empathize with the heavy burden you carry—caring for your elderly mother who depends entirely on you, supporting your special-needs son, and feeling the responsibility toward your husband who is far away. This is not an easy situation, and the very fact that you are worried about balancing these duties shows the sincerity of your faith. May Allah grant you strength, wisdom, and comfort. 🌿

Balancing Two Sacred Trusts

In Islam, both your mother and your husband have sacred rights. Your husband has the right to companionship, care, and kindness, especially when he feels lonely or unwell. At the same time, caring for parents—especially in old age—is one of the greatest acts of worship. Allah says: “Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the final return.” (Luqman 31:14). Serving your mother in her weakness is a form of devotion that draws you near to Allah.

How to Approach This

• Communicate gently with your husband: explain that you are not neglecting him out of disregard, but because your mother has no one else. Stay emotionally close through calls and visits when possible.
• Explore middle paths: perhaps arrange occasional trusted help for your mother so you can spend time with your husband, or discuss ways he might visit more often.
• Set your intention: if you serve your mother, do so for Allah’s sake; if you visit your husband, do so to honor his rights. Both are worship when rooted in sincerity.

Are You Sinful?

No, you are not committing a grave sin. You are faced with overlapping obligations, and Allah does not burden a soul beyond its capacity (Al-Baqarah 2:286). Since you are sincerely striving to balance these duties, Allah will reward your effort and intention.

Here is a Du`aʾ for Strength in Balancing Duties

Allahumma a`inni `ala dhikrika wa shukrika wa husni `ibadatik, wa waffiqni li-birr walidayya wa husni mu`asharati zawji.
“O Allah, help me to remember You, to be grateful to You, and to worship You in the best way. Grant me success in serving my parents with kindness and in treating my husband with goodness.”

Question 9:

Can a girl wear light eye makeup such as mascara or eye shadow with niqab in public

Answer 9:

My dear sister, may Allah reward you for your modesty and your desire to live by His guidance. Islam does not deny beauty—it honors it—but also places boundaries to protect a woman’s dignity.

The purpose of the niqab is to reduce unnecessary attention. If the eyes are naturally visible, there is no sin in that. But applying makeup that beautifies or enhances the eyes in public, where unrelated men may notice, goes against the spirit of covering. Allah the Almighty says: “And do not display your adornment except what is apparent.” (An-Nur 24:31)

Scholars explain that makeup is part of zinah (adornment), which should be reserved for private settings—with family, one’s husband, or women-only gatherings. The light kohl known in the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) time was used for health and personal care, not for public display.

For this reason, it is better to avoid eye makeup in public while wearing the niqab, so that the purpose of modesty is not compromised.

Let me, however, remind you, this is not about blame but about sincerity—choosing to cover for Allah’s sake. The Prophet (peace be upon him) advised: “Leave what makes you doubt for what does not make you doubt.” (At-Tirmidhi)

By avoiding doubtful matters, you safeguard both your modesty and your peace of heart. In private, beautification for one’s husband and family is not only allowed but encouraged and rewarded. Modesty in Islam is not meant to suppress your beauty, but to protect it and channel it where it is most cherished and honored.

Question 10:

made many mistakes, turned away from Islam, and committed disbelief and shirk many times. I even swore to never return and declared that I would fight against Allah forever. Later, I regretted everything and began to repent sincerely, and I still seek forgiveness. My family found out about my situation, although I didn’t tell them the full truth. They showed compassion and reminded me that Allah is merciful.

But I read something that deeply scared me: if a person becomes a disbeliever and their family supports them or doesn’t feel sorrow, they too may fall out of Islam. Now I fear that my past may have harmed not only me, but my family’s faith as well. What should I do? Should i repent every day and tell my family repent?
In my case, when I was a Muslim, I swore many oaths and said many things that are considered blasphemy and polytheism, such as not returning to Islam forever or waging war against Allah and many other things that I don’t know and don’t remember, and I fell into polytheism and blasphemy a lot, and now I ask for forgiveness, but I don’t know if someone like me will be forgiven, but I think I will die an infidel, a polytheist, do you think a sinner like me should hope for forgiveness from Allah or should I give up hope? Will Allah forgive me? I am very regretful, I want to return to Islam but I think that my oath and many sins will prevent me from doing so, I don’t want to die an infidel, I am very afraid, will Allah forgive me?

Answer 10:

My dear brother/sister, I hear the pain in your words, and I want you to know this first: Allah’s door of mercy is never closed. No matter what you did in the past, if today you turn to Him sincerely, He welcomes you with open arms. Allah says: “O My servants who have wronged themselves, do not despair of Allah’s mercy. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is the All-Forgiving, the Most Merciful.”(Az-Zumar 39:53).

This verse was revealed for people who thought they had gone too far—yet Allah assures us that every sin, even the gravest ones, can be forgiven with sincere repentance.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) told us that Allah stretches out His hand by day and by night to accept repentance until the very end (Muslim). That means your past words, oaths, or even rejections do not chain you forever. Repentance erases what came before it. Islam is not about being flawless—it is about returning to Allah whenever we slip.

As for your family, you are not responsible for their faith being harmed by your past. Each soul bears its own burden. What you can do is pray for them, encourage them, and walk with them on the path of faith. And about despair—know that hopelessness is a trick of Shaytan. He wants you to believe you are beyond Allah’s mercy. But Allah’s forgiveness is greater than every sin and wider than the heavens and the earth.

What to do now:

• Renew your Shahadah with sincerity: La ilaha illa Allah, Muhammadun Rasulullah.
• Repent often—not because your sins are too many, but because Allah loves hearts that return to Him.
• Pray, seek knowledge, and fill your days with Qur’an and dhikr, even in small steps.
• Trust in Allah’s promise: “Indeed, Allah loves those who repent and loves those who purify themselves.”(Al-Baqarah 2:222)

My dear brother/sister, you are not doomed, and you are not locked out. Right now—because your heart is broken and yearning for Him—you are closer to Allah than you realize. Do not give up. Keep repenting, keep hoping, and know that you are loved by the Most Merciful.

Here is daily Du`aʾ for Mercy and Forgiveness

Allahumma ighfir li warhamni, waj`alni min `ibadikaS-Salihin, wa la tatrukni ila nafsi Tarfata `ayn.

“O Allah, forgive me, have mercy on me, make me among Your righteous servants, and do not leave me to myself even for the blink of an eye.”

Question 11:

1. I have been married and tried to support my husband as much as possible.I tried to solve them and keep them within ourselves.I never discussed his shortcomings to anyone unless he has already shared the half part of that.Like one incident happened then what he used to do he would tell people only my faults and not the other side of the story.And I always suggested him not to bring outsiders or family members unnecessarily in our matters.Then he decided to go to germany to repay his father’s loan.I was not ready for that.And then he promised me that he will come back after 2 years.After repaying his loan he started to change his behaviour and at his stay in abroad we used to have less communication.He used to avoid me sometimes, I also felt very exhausted.In his time he affirmed me more than once that he will be back after 2 years.Later on one day I could not tolerate his cold behavior and sent him a bad message.He logged out from facebook and then did not contact with me.And then suddenly sent me a divorce letter.Without even telling me that he is even thinking this.And in this whole time he somehow portrayed me in such a way that I am THE VILLAIN of the story.The reason he shared with others if he even told me that then I could solve them because I always try to save my marriage.But he didn’t ever told me any reason or discussed with me properly by which I could understand this. Like he told other people that I don’t want to go to germany but he didn’t tell them that he promised me that he will be back after 2 years. There are more situations like that. I invested my 7 years to him.I supported him through his thin and thick.But when his all financial issues were resolved he just threw me away like a tissue paper.Wasn’t it an injustice to me when I was waiting for him in country and trusting him blindly? (Sheikh believe me still in this message I haven’t shared his shortcomings that much.But I shared my one). I tried a lot to reconcile and endured resentment from his parents.
Sheikh to be very honest if I ask myself I really feel that I did not deserve this divorce and this tremendous pain that me and my family is going through.This is an unrepairable scar to me and my family. So I asked Allah to punish them. If they are punishable. Is that ok. I can’t forgive them.Because I know how passionately I loved him and how blindly I trusted him. I was a very much loayal wife.For him I endured poverty.Even I used to get pocket money from my father and used that money to buy necessary things for my family (me and my husband).I always tried to keep his respect to my father and family. And never told them why I still ask the pocket money to my father.My family loved him no less than my own brother.But Still he threw me away from his life.I still can not tolerate this inicdent.Isn’t it a betrayal to my trust when he affirmed me that he will be back? And knew that I am waiting for him?Isn’t it a injustice to me to put me in such a struggle, pain that I didn’t deserve.Even my brother in law taunts my middle sister and accuse us for this incident and threat her.

2. Sheikh I am sorry I have wrote a lot of things. But as you are from india you will be able to understand how much a woman in this subcontinent tries to save her marriage. I really feel he did injustice to me.Can I ask Allah to provide me justice?

3. Sheikh when I think about this a lot of things come to my mind whenther did wrong or right. Was it injustice to me or not. A lot of things.Like when a thing come to mind and it keeps to grow large to larger. Like those things keep me overwhelmed like what if he did this, what if he did not did injustice, what if thinking his injustice a kufr. etc etc. So I somehow I managed my mind And ask Allah to punish them.
4. And also in some moments in my mind sudden thoughts come like and in mind I say “ok Allah I frogive them” and later on immediately I say aloud no no I am not forgiving them. Mostof the times this thoughts come to my mind and I can’t control. This thoughts come every now and then. Somehow I control them. Two or three times it happened that I could have control those thoughts/(talks in mind) but for some reason I didn’t stop at that very moment and said in mind that “ok Allah I frogive them” . Did this talks in mind mean I really forgive them?
5. Even if I forgive them can’t I ask Allah to punish them and provide me justice.

Please answer me. I know my letter is so long. But please. I am very much devastatded mentally at this moment. I cant take this pain.

Answer 11:

My dear sister, I deeply empathize with the pain you are carrying. Years of loyalty, sacrifice, and trust—only to be cast aside without warning—leave wounds that are heavy on the heart. Please know: Allah sees every tear, every silent hurt, and every sacrifice you made. Nothing is ever lost with Him.

1. On sudden divorce

Marriage in Islam is meant to rest on trust, mercy, and communication. The Qur’an commands husbands to live with their wives in kindness (An-Nisa’ 4:19). While divorce is permitted, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said it is among the most hated lawful things to Allah. To use it hastily, without fairness or compassion, is an injustice.

2. Your right to seek justice

You are not sinful for feeling wronged or for asking Allah to hold him accountable. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Beware the supplication of the oppressed, for there is no barrier between it and Allah.”(Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

If forgiveness feels impossible right now, that is understandable. You may ask Allah for justice, and you may also ask Him to heal your heart and replace your loss with something better.

3. Passing thoughts of forgiveness

The back-and-forth whispers in your mind—“I forgive” one moment, “I don’t” the next—are not binding. Allah judges you by the intention that settles in your heart, not fleeting emotions or stray thoughts. True forgiveness, if and when you choose it, comes from a heart at peace.

4. Forgiveness and justice

Yes, it is possible to forgive and still ask for justice. Some forgive in their hearts but still pray for Allah to judge fairly in this world or the next. Others entrust the matter entirely to Him. Both are valid and both are honored.

 A word of comfort

You are not defined by his betrayal—you are defined by your patience, your loyalty, and your faith. Allah promises: “Whoever is mindful of Allah, He will make a way out for them and provide for them from where they do not expect. And whoever relies on Allah, He is sufficient for them.”(At-Talaq 65:2–3). Trust this promise: your pain will not be wasted.

My personal advice:  Keep turning to Allah in your own words. Tell Him your hurt, your need for justice, your longing for peace. He is closer than your jugular vein, and He will not let your trust or your sacrifice go unrewarded. I also advise you to read the following Du`aʾ for Healing and Justice:

Allahumma ajirni fi muSibati wakhluf li khayran minha, waj`al li min amri farajan wa makhraja, wa’jbur qalbi bi-rahmatika.
“O Allah, reward me in my trial, replace it with something better, grant me relief and a way out of my hardship, and heal my heart with Your mercy.”

Question 12:

 Sheikh. I really hope one day you will reply my queries. I have NO doubt that Islam is perfect.
But can you please tell if a wife is loyal to his husband, she did not leave her husband in his thick and thin. Struggled at the tough days with him. And now after resolving his financial issues he wants to marry an other lady.
how the first wife can pacify herself and keep on trust that her husband marrying another woman is fair thing to her? She faced the poor days alone and now someone else will be enjoying the solvency, the love she waited for these years same as her without any pain? I know still even in this case her husband marrying another woman is halal. but how for her it is fair ? I can not understand.

I am tormented seeing and hearing fatwas from middle east based website. When a wife is trusting her husband blindly that he won’t get married and he just marries again how it is not trust breaking.

One speaker said it is woman’s falt why she didn’t put clause in nikah nama. Doesn’t mutual trust mean anything in this case? If a woman cant trust her husband then whom should she? Please reply.

And most importantly in different websites I have heard that husband doesn’t need to maintain the equality in for intercourse. He just need to maintain fairness in night spend! Then what is the point of night spending? Like the husband is having his desire fulfilled with another wife properly.And then when it is the night of another wife then he is tired and just sleeping then what will the wife do?
Is this rule even from Prophet PBUH or just scholars opinion?


If the husband is not even obliged to maintain the equality of intimacy then why should one woman get married?

I mean if she has her own money, now a days social situation is pretty stable that her husband doesn’t usually need to provide her safety. So the only thing she may need from husband is mental peace and physical intemacy for which she has no other place. If this is even not obligation to husband then why should I take risk? That he will have his intimacy with second wife and 1st one is not having intimacy with him and he is just spending time nothing else? Is this really the only rule?

I know wife can ask for divorce if she is not physically happy. Then what is the point of all these sacrifice?

Then isn’t is better to stay alone and somehow pass this life without this tests?

Perhaps your answer will remove confusion of a lot of women who are so afraid of marriage.

Answer 12:

My dear sister, I see your pain, and I want you to know your feelings are valid. You gave your youth, loyalty, and countless sacrifices to your husband, and it is deeply painful to face the thought of sharing him now. Islam does not dismiss this hurt—Allah sees every tear you shed, and nothing done out of love and sincerity is ever lost with Him.

Yes, Islam permits polygamy, but only within strict limits of justice and mercy. If your husband forgets to show gratitude, know that Allah never forgets. You are not wrong to feel betrayed—trust is part of marriage, and it should never be broken. Your worth is not defined by another’s choices. You stood by him in hardship, and that is recorded with Allah. If people forget, al-`Adl—the Most Just—will honor you.

You have the right to speak your truth, set boundaries, and seek the path that brings you peace. Whether you choose to endure with patience or take a different step, Allah is with you, and He will not let your sacrifices go unrewarded.

Take heart: you are loved by Allah, cherished beyond measure, and your pain is not invisible to Him.

I advise you to read this Du`aʾ for Strength and Peace

Allahumma inni as’aluka Sabran jamilan, wa qalban saliman, wa hayatan Tayyibatan tuTahhiru biha qalbi wa taj`alu li fiha farajan wa rahmah.

“O Allah, I ask You for beautiful patience, a sound heart, and a pure life through which You cleanse my soul and grant me relief and mercy.”

Question 13:

I am severly in pain thinking that a husbnd can marry anytime if he has financial ability. I will not be able to pass everyday of my life with the fear that the man of my life can bring any other woman in his life anytime. That fear will put me in trauma. How can I love and serve someone selflessly in his thick and thin with this trauma? Can a man really remary any time any woman? In diffrent sites it gives fatwas that man is bread earner etc. But now a days the social security is not like earlier. And man are also not (usually) marrying a widow or divorcee to help. They are just falling in love with someone even after being married. The indulge in a relationship and continues it as they know they can make it halal any time

1.If someone loose faith on men thinking that they can be disloyal anytime and marry anyone (I know its halal) will it be a sin on her? How can I trust my husband with this fear.

2.If someone feels/says that dignified man doesn’t do multiple marriage, man of bad character do this? Would it be a sin? Though not accusing prophet pbuh (nauzubillah). Prophets, sahabas are exception. But for man of toady’s world.
In the society it is not something that is treated with respect.

3.What I see men are doing marriagw without any genuine need. He has a family, beatiful wife, kids. Still he fall in love with another lady, chit chat, have relationship then marries her! He knows that he has way to legalize his extra marital relation.Is it really fair to a loyal wife?

Answer 13:

My dear sister, your pain is real, and Allah sees every tear you shed. He is al-`Adl (The Just) and al-LaTif (The Gentle). Islam permits polygamy, but only under strict justice and compassion. It was revealed in the context of caring for widows and orphans, not for selfish desires or breaking loyal hearts. Allah warns: “If you fear that you cannot be just, then [marry] only one.” (An-Nisa’ 4:3). Justice, mercy, and gratitude are conditions—not options. Sadly, many misuse this allowance, forgetting they will answer to Allah for every wound they cause.

Your feelings of betrayal or grief are not sinful—they are natural. Your worth is not diminished by another’s choice. You gave loyalty and sacrifice, and that is written with Allah. If people forget, al-`Adl will honor you.

How to respond:

• Place your trust in Allah, who never betrays.
• Know that you have the right to ask Him for justice—your du`aʾ as the wronged is heard without barrier.
• If overwhelmed, pour your heart to Allah for peace, healing, and relief.
• Guard your dignity: patience, prayer, and self-respect are your strength.

Many women before you bore trials in marriage with faith and dignity. Sayyidah Khadijah (may Allah be pleased with her) supported the Prophet (peace be upon him) with unwavering loyalty, and her sacrifices were remembered by Allah Himself. Asiyah, the wife of Pharaoh, endured betrayal and oppression in her home, yet Allah raised her as a model of faith for all believers (At-Tahrim 66:11). Their stories remind us that honor and closeness to Allah are not determined by a husband’s actions, but by a woman’s faith, patience, and sincerity.

A Du`aʾ for Comfort and Healing

Allahumma ya muʾnisa al-wahid, wa ya maljaʾa kulli khaʾif, aj`al li min hammi farajan, wa min ḍiqi makhrajan, washrah Sadri bis-sakinah, wa ihfaẓ qalbi mina al-kasri wa al-khawf.

“O Allah, Companion of the lonely and Refuge of every fearful heart, grant me relief from my worries, a way out of my distress, fill my chest with peace, and protect my heart from being broken or consumed by fear.”

You should rest assured of the fact that you are loved by Allah, cherished beyond measure, and your pain is never invisible to Him. Every sacrifice you made is preserved with Him, and He will replace it with something better—whether in this world or the next.