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Question 1. My Husband Asks Me Weird Things to Do; Please Advise!

Salamu alaikum, thank you all for this wonderful website. My problem in short is that my husband has no jealousy over me, always asking me for weird things to do, like wearing an abaya with no clothes underneath it in a public place, sometimes he let me open the door for the deliveries late at night. And lately he has been filming me while having sex, I don’t know what to do, should I tell my parents?

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Question 2. He Cheated Me with My Sister; My Family Wants Me to Forgive

Assalamu alaikum,

My husband and I have been married for a few years now. In the 2nd year of our marriage my husband misbehaved with my sister when I was pregnant with his son. However, my family and I decided to forgive him and give him another chance because we thought maybe shaitan got the better of him. 5 years later he tried to do the same thing and this time he said he realized his mistake so he didn’t do anything. But when I knew he TRIED to do itself I was feeling so disappointed and disgusted. I told my family about it too and they are still saying to forgive him and give him a last chance for the sake of my son. But I feel so stuck in this relationship and I cannot look at him without feeling disgusted. Please advise me about what to do? Do you think divorce will help my son?

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Question 3. Shocking Truth About My Husband’s Past

Pre-marriage knowing me and my fiancé were both previously married. We discussed intimacy briefly. One area I said was important was that being mature about intimacy outside of marriage in terms of diseases and illegitimate children. I added I was fine to go to the sexual health clinic and gets tested.
My husband, at the time fiancé, said that is not needed. Red flag in ignored.
Fast forward 2 years and 1 baby later our marriage has deteriorated the main reason is intimacy he has issues from day one. And I tried to help, tried to advice. All he could do is make it feel like my problem. 2 years later with a non-existent satisfying intimate life I found out he was not married before and he cohabited with his “ex-wife”. Photos – intimate photos were uncovered.

I confronted him and his response was he spoke to a sheikh who said it was fine to hide the past even though he lied to me he was never married. And he refused to do the tests. He took away my informed choice at the time pre-marriage.

He has no remorse and still believes what he did is right. To add fuel to the fire he kept the same bed that slept on for 2 years. I am heart broken and mortified, embarrassed and feel disgusting.

Because of my baby I am sat in the same home wondering what to do. He has no remorse and instead is upset with me.

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Question 4. Married but Still Virgins, What Should I Do?

We are married for a year now but we’re still virgin. My husband and I have age difference of 12 years and I am already worried that how life will be. Because my husband is suffering from ED and I myself have irregular period cycle (which is currently being treated ). Every time we try he gets discharged even before starting. It is really frustrating me. I haven’t even told my family as I do not want them to treat him any differently. He has been to doctors and they’re saying he is fine he also had his surgery called varicocelectomy but to no avail. What should I do? Is it okay to keep it as it is?

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Question 5. How to Save My Marriage?

I have been married to my husband for less than six months.
I left the country, I went to see my sick mother and when I was away from my husband and I suffered a miscarriage and after that we had a disagreement and we blocked each other and now I came back.
And he told that he is married to this other woman who her parents don’t know that is she married to him and his mother doesn’t want him to marry her and he even told me that my mother in law said he should divorce me and the other woman I love my husband so much coz we have be through together

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Question 6. My Wife Talks to Another Man; Please Advise!

My wife is suspected to be having an affair with another man, with glaring chats evidence, though she denies it. I reported the issue to her mother, before whom she vowed not to talk to the man again, but she continued talking to the man the very next day. I admonished her, and she promised not to talk to the man again. She still didn’t stop talking to the man. I heard her tell the man on phone, “I don’t know where to draw the line between me, you, and my marriage”. Only for her to say she wasn’t having an affair with the man, that she is only comfortable talking to the man, that there is absolutely nothing she can’t discuss with the man, who happens to be divorced.
Kindly advise me on how to handle this….

Thank you!

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