You are allowed to have a free discussion on the matters or issues that may have an impact on a happy and blissful marriage partnership.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) advised us to see the potential marriage partners to determine whether they are compatible or not. He said it might enable them to forge a lasting partnership. The questions you have raised are legitimate.
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Allah Almighty knows best.
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