I was not patient in the past and gave up easily—on situations, and sometimes on people. I walked away more times than I could count.
But leaving did not heal me; it only deepened my emptiness.
Chaos filled my heart, and I found myself silently craving attention. At my lowest moments, I thought I simply wanted everything to end. It was Allah’s mercy that kept me going.
“And were it not for the favor of Allah upon you and His mercy, not one of you would have been purified—ever.” (Qur’an 24:21)
During the pandemic, five years ago, I began to understand my own emotional patterns. I realized that impatience had been at the root of much of my pain.
I spoke openly and directly, believing that honesty alone was strength. Yet sometimes that openness gave others the means to wound me further. Words I shared sincerely were turned against me, causing more pain.
That was when I learned the value of silence.
I realized, strength does not always lie in winning arguments or proving oneself right. I found power in restraint, and became quiet not out of weakness, but out of self-preservation—to protect my peace, safeguard my mind, and shield my heart.
Inner Peace
Allah reminds us:
“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (Qur’an 13:28)
True peace does not come from attachment to people, validation, or fleeting outcomes. All of these are fragile and temporary. What is lasting is Allah alone.
We women must first be at peace with ourselves before we can truly be anything for others.
Sometimes, there are too high standards for everything around—relationships, appearances, achievements—but what often gets neglected is what lies within.
When the heart is unsettled, attachment tends to follow the wrong path. Instead of clinging to what elevates the soul, it becomes tied to what slowly harms it.
Reaching self-awareness and acceptance is never easy. It does not happen overnight, nor is it always a straight path. Sometimes it takes years. What matters most is the willingness to begin and the persistence to continue seeking that inner peace, no matter how long it takes.
“Whoever puts his trust in Allah—He is sufficient for him.” (Qur’an 65:3)
When you anchor your heart in Allah’s mercy, you are no longer shaken by what comes or goes. You learn to love without losing yourself, to give without depleting your soul, and to stand firm without bitterness.
Detachment from everything except Allah is not emptiness—it is freedom. From that freedom comes clarity, dignity, and a quiet strength that no worldly circumstance can take away.
Remember, dear sister: your heart belongs to Allah alone, and in His mercy lies your truest peace.