Blessings in life are like the autumn, the colors and the breeze are welcomed warmly.
One such blessing is happy marriage. Though, it has been a trend to host a marriage ceremony grandly, but once it is over everything is over. It is a shame that the sparks of the wedding night fade so soon. Is marriage meant just for a day where the bride meets her prince charming, pledges to be his wife forever?
Some believe that meeting the end is called happily ever after, like the fairy tales we used to read and watch, and that end always becomes the marriage; trust me this is not true! You just begin the adventure not the end, for marriage is one’s roller coaster.
We are much exposed to the world that Western minds have created for us. The unlawful relationship is beautified by many Western thinkers and purposefully forgot to illustrate the beauty of marital life.
The mistake we commonly fall in is that when we get used to something, we care less to maintain it, we neglect the importance of beautifying relationship.
1. Halal Dating
How often do you go out with your spouse? Can you remember a candle-lit dinner spent with a light heart chat with your spouse after the early days of your marriage? Why should honeymoon get over so soon?
These are the common errors in today’s marital lives. Honeymoon soon ends. The masks removed and we start living with the truth, truth of being busy with our business, meetings, children and other responsibilities.
Does this mean that the marital relationship becomes a burden? When responsibilities drown one, does that mean he or she has to give up being the caring and close partner of their spouse?
The answer is NO. Take your spouse to a restaurant, have a special dinner and let your partner feels she/he is special to you. After all, your spouse is halal to you, why feel ashamed in entertaining her/him?
Explore the beauty of Allah’s creations while entertaining your life. Have a break from your usual schedule. Take your spouse on a trip. Different environments create different moods for both of you and soon you will find the change in your life.
2. Balanced Life
It is true that each day we gain experience and grow old. Another day is a blessing of Allah. The realization makes us feel matured and we tend to prepare for the other life while enjoying our current lives and fulfilling our duties towards the family.
Indeed, Islam teaches a balanced life, hence we call it the way of life.
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) told us,”Be in this world as a stranger or wayfarer.” [Bukhari, Tirmidhi, Ibn Maja, and Ahmad]
The wayfarer or stranger does not avoid comfort, enjoyment, or interests related to their journey or place of sojourn. However, they realize that their destination is more important than their fleeting journey or sojourn.
Thus, they prioritize, realizing that this worldly life is a means to the next life. We seek the good in it, as a means to the good in the next life, not as an end itself.
3. Gifts
Exchange gifts with each other. Your spouse is the other half of you. Why not make yourself happy?
A gift is an expression of love. We are often fed that these are wasting our money. But what if you bought the regular brand of shampoo she/he uses as a gift, after all you remember what brand she/he likes and it will make her/him happy.
We are told that a gift should be something expensive. That is where we have mistaken. A gift can be anything. Even if it is simple, it will be much appreciated.
4. Show Love
- Cuddle and kiss your spouse often with affection and don’t forget to appreciate him/her.
- Give a light head massage to your spouse, that’s a practiced secret for a successful marital relationship.
- Get close to your partner and drift your spouse’s attention to you from the television or the book.
- Tease and joke with your partner.
It is much easier to declare war against them when they commit a simple error. But we are stingy when it comes to using the words like ‘I love you’.
When others can keep on saying those words for their unlawful partner why can’t you whisper so day and night to your spouse? After all, your spouse is lawful to you.
Pages: 1 2“And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between you; verily, in that are signs for people who reflect.” (Qur’an, 30:21)