Who doesn’t like talking about love? It’s one of the most favorite topics among youth. We like to read love stories and watch romantic movies. We get amazed by how the lover treats his beloved and how deeply the couple loves each other.
Sometimes, these stories are unrealistic, sometimes exaggerating…
However, If we examine the life of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), we’d find it full of instances that we, most of the time, forget to look at and hardly follow.
We know how much he was respectful towards women and he usually ordered the companions to treat women with respect and kindness. He led by example when he said:
“The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Ibn Majah)
So, let’s look at how Prophet Muhammed showed his wives love and tender care?
Here are some tips from the Sunnahs of the Prophet (peace be upon him):
1- Express Your Love in Different Ways
His love for Aisha was immense.
In one narration Aisha said:
“The Messenger of Allah used to divide his time equally and said: O Allah, this is my division concerning what I control, so do not blame me concerning what You control and I do not.” (Abu Dawud)
One day, the Prophet’s companion, Amr ibn Al-As, said:
“I came to the Prophet and said:
Which people do you love most?
He replied, Aisha.
I said: ‘From amongst the men?’
He replied, ‘Her father, (Abu Bakr).’
“The Messenger of Allah used to put his mouth on the place where I had drunk from, and he would drink from what was leftover by me, while I was menstruating.” (An-Nasa’i)
2- Feed Her
How easy it is for Muslims to gain rewards ! Just by smiling at your wife or putting a morsel in her mouth, you get a reward. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“You will be rewarded for whatever you spend for Allah’s sake even if it were a morsel which you put in your wife’s mouth.”(Al Bukhari)
3- Play with Her
How many times do you invite your spouse to trekking or playing a game? Imagine, the leader who used to have plenty of responsibilities, but he could still find time to share a game with his wife.
‘Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) narrated:
“The Prophet raced with me and I beat him.” (Ibn Majah)
4- Clean up for Her
What’s the first thing you do when you have an important meeting? Tidying up, using your favorite perfume… why not try these when you’re entering home?
Shuraih bin Hani (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I asked ‘Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her): “What was the first thing which the Prophet would do when he entered his house?”
“He would use Miswak (tooth-stick).” (Muslim)
5- Lean on Her Lap
Romantic lovers like to lean on each other’s shoulder or lap. Doing this brings a state of calmness and contentment. Prophet Muhammad used to put his head on Aisha’s lap and recite the Qur’an.
“The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to lean on my lap and recite Quran while I was in menses.” (Al-Bukhari)
6- Bathe With Her
“I and the Messenger (PBUH) took a bath from the same vessel and our hands alternated into it in the state that we had had sexual intercourse.” (Muslim)
It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbas that his maternal aunt Maimunah said:
“The Messenger of Allah and I used to take bath from a single vessel.” (Ibn Majah)
7- Share Her Interests
Sharing interests with your spouse certainly strengthens your bond and brings happiness.
“The Prophet was screening me with his Rida’ (garment covering the upper part of the body) while I was looking at the Ethiopians who were playing in the courtyard of the mosque. (I continued watching) till I was satisfied. So you may deduce from this event how a little girl (who has not reached the age of puberty) who is eager to enjoy amusement should be treated in this respect.” (Al-Bukhari)
8- Love Her Friends
“I did not feel jealous of any of the wives of the Prophet as much as I did of Khadija though I did not see her, but the Prophet used to mention her very often, and when ever he slaughtered a sheep, he would cut its parts and send them to the friends of Khadija.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari)
9- Help Her
Why is it difficult for many men to help their wives in doing house chores like cleaning, washing dishes, or fixing up the sink…?
Spare some time to help fixing something in the house, or help in cleaning. The Prophet used to do so.
“I asked ‘A’isha, may Allah be pleased with her, ‘What did the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, do when he was with his family?’
“He would do chores for his family, and when it was time for the prayer, he would go out. ” (Al Albani)
10- Call Her by Her Beautiful Name
The Prophet used to call Aisha by her beautiful name. One day she asked the Prophet:
“O Messenger of Allah, what are the things which are not permissible to withhold?”
He said: “Water, salt and fire.”
She said: “I said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, we know what water is, but what about salt and fire?”
He said: “O Humaira’, whoever gives fire (to another), it is as if he has given in charity all the food that is cooked on that fire. Whoever gives salt, it is as if he has given in charity all that the salt makes good. And whoever gives a Muslim water to drink when water is available, it is as if he freed a slave; and whoever gives a Muslim water to drink when there is no water available, it is as if he brought him back to life.” (Ibn Majah)
First published: November 2018