If I am approached for the purpose of relationship or marriage, I would begin to look for fault in the person to discourage me and will lastly decline without even giving it a try and later on would start feeling regretful as to why I didn't even try.
I am really scared as I am approaching 30 and all my friends are married and also, it's long since I have received a proposal. And also, even if I do in the future, I am afraid I might decline.
I know marriage is an important sunnah of the Prophet, I would like to complete it and really want to get married before I clock 30. But the shyness, self-doubt within me that my spouse might not be satisfied with me both physically and mentally, and also the happenings I see in marriages around me nowadays scare me a lot.
Please I need some guidance on how to tackle these issues.
Ma'assalam
Answer
You would like to get married, but once you get a proposal, you start doubting yourself.
How can you overcome this and become more confident in your qualities?
Write a list of the things you like in all aspects of life: your spirituality, personality, and hobbies. Then take another list and write down what you would like to improve.
Ideally, the first list should be much longer; otherwise, it can be indicative that you have low self-esteem and do not love yourself enough.
And if you do not love yourself, it is hard to believe that others will love you.
How can you improve your self-esteem and be confident in your marriage search?
Find out here.
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