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How to Deal with My Teasing, Backbiting Friends?

31 March, 2024
Q I've friends who tease me. Say that my expressions, attitude etc. are not right etc. They even blame me saying that I am rude even when I would have thought/did nothing. They constantly backbite others too. But sometimes they act /behave in super sweet way and their behavior is making me confused. Finally, they're like, I am the rude one there. But actually, I am afraid to even defend myself because they may shout back or even cut ties with me and talk bad about me. How to deal with them? Is it permissible to totally ignore them?


Backbiting, gossiping, and insulting others are not acceptable in Islam. 

If your friends constantly engage in these sins and confuse you with their behavior, it’s better to avoid them and seek healthier companionship.

This does not mean being rude. You can still maintain the greetings and a kind attitude while not choosing them as close friends.

Walk away and, with time, you will find other people who value real friendship and accept and respect you for who you are. 

If you are struggling with teasing friends, click here to check the counselor’s advice!

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Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.