Q Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh, hope you are doing well. My question honestly is looking for a way out from emotional attachment. Here's the full story; I'm a grade 11 student and Alhamdulillah high school is pretty good! having friends, classes, all that stuff. In our 2nd semester started and I met this other girl who wasn't initially my friend at first but gradually we became very good friends, Alhamdulillah. I have always seen her as a normal friend like any of my other friends.

However, as we've gotten more into the semester, I've noticed myself being a bit closer with her and understanding in essence that we both share the same love language. Now, a person like me, I am a very very loving person (as I say myself) I try to follow the way the Prophet (SAW) acted with people, and behaved with them, and his manners towards them etc. Alhamdulillah, naturally in my akhlaq and character, I express my love to my friends and family by physical touch, quality time words of affirmation, all the 5 love languages basically. We would link arms, give high fives, hold hands, tight bear hugs, protector hugs, all that sort of stuff close friends do.

But what makes me sad is that I've come to the point where with this friend in particular, it's gotten too much for me. I can't stop thinking about her, I wanna be loving with her. I know, and I mean I actually know that it's unhealthy to be fully reliant/dependent on a person or anyone besides Allah. I understand, but I get that my nafs are tricking me over and over and over. I've even confronted her about this whole situation and told her that I'm feeling this way (cause it's gotten out of hand for me). She just consulted me saying that "oh it's fine to feel like that, it's normal" etc. But honestly that didn't help me as much...

I always remind myself thinking and reflecting back to ayahs about when Allah says in Surah Furqan "And we have made some of you (people) as a trial for others, will you then have patience?" and subhanAllah, it is soooo true, I try keeping this in mind.

I feel like with me, she doesn't show the same amount of love she shows her other friends, PLUS I forgot to mention, she's a very extroverted person. She has quite a lot of friends, but she's also very open minded with almost everyone in our class, and that's just her character.

It has gotten to the point where I became jealous, bcz she would kind of be touchier and say sweet things to others than me, and I know, it's not good to be jealous of anyone/anything ever! but it naturally happened. I couldn't stop myself from something that naturally happened. This is what makes me feel so down about myself. there's just something about her that makes my heart attach to her, when I should really be attached to Allah. But at least at some point, I would really like my desires to be fulfilled.

She has even told me that "time will fix/heal all the wounds" but I don't know if I could wait that long. Please help me, and some kind, humble advice would be highly appreciated. May Allah reward you immensely.