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As-Salaam ’Alaykum brother,
If you don’t want to go to Hell, then stop doing the things that will higher your risk of going to Hell. Sometimes it is that simple.
Life challenges are meant to bring you closer to God, brother. It is a way to remember your priority in existence which is to stay anchored in your Lord. Islam does not “solve your problems”; you have to solve your problems through sincere trust in God and beneficial action. Islam is a tool for you.
Spirituality is a living experience that is refined through life challenges. Therefore, your current situation is an opportunity for you to grow and be patient as true spirituality is lived in face of hard times, and not easy ones. There is no spirituality if you do not go through challenges.
“And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirun (the patient).” (Quran 2:155)
This girl is a delight you desire, and you are going against what you know is right. This is why you do not feel good. You have the power to get straight again, and you have the resources and parents that care for you. What are you waiting for?
I understand you are going through a difficult time. Falling into a major act which is displeasing to God is not easy. But God did make the process of tawba (turning back in repentance) easy. Alhamdulillah, you are on the right path, brother. Firstly, you have acknowledged your wrong which means you are humble and ashamed before God. Second, you start repenting sincerely and spending time with those who will keep you straight. These are basic ingredients for seeking God’s forgiveness, in sha’ Allah.
You should also stop seeing your girlfriend as this is what leads you to sin. This is an opportunity for you now to get closer to God and honestly live and practice your belief that God is Most Merciful and Forgiving.
“…He will call you to account for that which your hearts have earned. And Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most-Forbearing.” (Quran 2:225)
Say (O Muhammad): “If you (really) love Allah then follow me, Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful. (Quran 3:31)
Help yourself brother by learning to love God and His Messenger above your desire and delights of the haram. This will bring you great success in this life and the next. Who knows, maybe your transformation will guide your Christian girlfriend to accept Islam or open the door for future marriage. One thing I have seen and experienced is that God is the Greatest and can do anything with time.
Also, regarding how to protect yourself from commiting zina, Aboutislam scholar says:
” There are many ways that Muslims can protect themselves from zina. Salah (prayer), both obligatory and supererogatory, is one of the strongest defenses against zina. Allah Almighty says:
“Recite that which has been revealed to you of the Book and keep up prayer; surely prayer keeps (one) away from indecency and evil, and certainly the remembrance of Allah is the greatest.” (Quran 29:45)
Regular fasting is another way of suppressing sexual desires as Allah’s Messenger prescribed it for young people who could not afford to get married.
Another way to keep away from zina is by reminding yourself how you would abhor and dislike it for your mother, daughter, sister, brother, and aunt. This was how Prophet Muhammad (saw) explained it to a man who came seeking permission to commit zina. The Prophet (saw)told him to remember that Satan watches and waits for you to be distant from your Muslim brethren, then he makes his attack. And so among the things that will deter you from zina is to always be in the company of righteous people who will remind you of Allah Almighty.
Remember that saying “no” to someone who invites you to commit zina will secure you a place of shelter under the shade of Allah’s throne on the day when their will be no shelter except His.
We ask Allah Most High to protect us from the evil of zina, to accept out righteous actions, and to shower us with His bounties in this life and in the hereafter.”
Salam,
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