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Should I Treat My Mental Illness Before Marriage?

01 January, 2024
Q Salam, I have been seeing someone for 5 months. I am suffering with anger issue grief of my lost mum. I want to marry but guy wants me to first get better and then date him and then decide. Shall I wait for him? Shall get counselling done treat my depression/anger? I don’t know if I have any issues, it’s just the frustration of getting older and not finding right match and when I found he is not ready to marry yet.


After losing a loved one, we go through the stages of bereavement. Depression and anger can be part of the grieving process.

You may go through it alone, but it can also be that you need some professional help with it.

If time has passed and your feelings are still so prominent that your fiance or other people around you notice that, you may take their advice and get counseling.

You will learn to accept what happened and how to cope with your feelings and relieve the distress and sadness.

Check out the full advice here.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.