At this point, I've spent all my youth studying. But now I want to marry, but despite having everything needed for me to get married, my parents are against the idea of marriage. I've also studied the Quran and hadith to the best of my ability & am confident about myself, my abilities & my religion. I am favored to have the life I'm living & I have no complaints about my lifestyle or standard of living. But my desire to get married gets stronger day by day.
I'm not sure how to deal with being single forever, and I feel like I'm getting suffocated by my desire to get married. I tried my level best to bring up the topic of marriage to my parents & many of my close relatives know about it. I feel very sick and exhausted from all the pressure of studies and living in a foreign country for the first time. My life hasn't always been easy. I've overcome many hardships in life. I believe Allah always has the best plan for the believers. But is there anything I can do to feel more patient during this difficult moment in life? I wake up every day trying to get ahead with all my responsibilities & I feel that I'm the right age to get married. I feel mentally, physically, and emotionally mature and ready enough for marriage. Is there any advice you could give me that would be helpful for me?
Answer
It is a good start that you are aware of your need for marriage.
Parents should put aside their fears and own feelings and focus on how to support you.
They should help you find the right spouse and prevent you from falling into the same mistakes they committed.
If that does not happen and they keep disregarding your needs and feelings, look around and seek other support groups for single Muslimahs.
Trust in Allah and in your judgement that you will find the one you are compatible with and can live your life with.
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