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I’m Traumatized by the Idea of Being a Wife

10 September, 2022
Q What is your advice for someone who feels traumatized from the idea of marriage because Islam ensures that the man is super comfortable in it while the woman is psychologically traumatized? I just don't feel comfortable with the position of a wife. For example, I feel like I will never be comfortable since everything about marriage is to abuse me. For example, Islam says that when a woman annoys her husband hoor alyn and the angles curse her, but no one curses the husband. This means the woman always have to live in fear of being cursed for slightest mistake and fearful from her husband as he can easily abuse her as no one curses him and no one will say anything to him. From another angel is hard for her to feel loved by him since he is promised many beautiful wives in paradise and she will just be one of many wives, therefore, he would not really care about her since he us promised countless wives. I just feel very uncomfortable with marriage.

Answer

Hannah Morris
10 September, 2022

It is not surprising that you are having fears of getting married if you have a wrong idea of what marriage is.

Where do you get your information from? Look for reliable sources to increase your knowledge, whether these are books or people around you.

If you have been exposed to negative experiences, try to search beyond that and do not accept it as the only reality. This is not what Islam teaches about marriages.

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About Hannah Morris
Hannah Morris is a mum of 4 and she currently works as Counsellor and Instructor of BSc. Psychology at the Islamic Online University (IOU). She obtained her MA degree in Psychology and has over 10 years of experience working in health and social care settings in the UK, USA, and Ireland. Check out her personal Facebook page, ActiveMindCare, that promotes psychological well-being in the Ummah. (www.facebook.com/activemindcare)