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Can’t Cope with My Younger Sister Getting Married First

24 September, 2022
Q Salaam! I am an unmarried girl. I am the eldest one in my family. I have been through a lot of painful experiences in my life until now. I have been in depression for several years and I have get counseling several times for my issues. I have wanted to get married since I was 20 and my parents only had started looking for proposals in my last year at university.

Now my sister's marriage is taking place next week. I am relatively a very soft person which I have no control of. What's hurting me most is that my young sister doesn't show any kind of sympathy or guilt about my situation. She only wants me to be happy for her entirely. She behaves as if she has no conscience. I don't have the strength to face the upcoming event and I am suffering day by day because of it. Please provide a suitable solution for me. May almighty bless you!. Jazakallah hair


Your situation is not your sister’s responsibility. 

Her happiness and excitement about her marriage is natural and understandable. Try to join her and celebrate it together. Surely, you would like to see her happy on your special day. 

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.