Q My parents are telling me to marry my cousin whom I don’t like at all. They are not and will not force me to marry that person or someone else and I understand all their concerns but still I can’t make myself to accept that person. He is not someone I like and would like to have him as my partner. My parents want me to marry him because they can’t find someone better than him in our relatives yeah that’s the main problem, they don’t want their children to marry someone out of our relatives. They also don’t used to like him as person before but suddenly he is someone better someone who will keeps me happy just because he is my cousin. He doesn’t even have a job they’re telling me they will give him money to start a business, how can I marry someone who don’t have something of his own and will lead life through my parent’s money. He hasn’t even studied anything he was never interested in studies and all I guess he only had graduated. Besides all of this I’m not even satisfied by his ikhlaq, I’m sure he must’ve been in contact with other women like every person do this day, I’ve been away from these things my whole life just to marry someone I don’t even like. When we were child, my parents never allowed my brother to hang out with him then how come he suddenly became mature and they find him perfect for me. I know we make mistakes when we are child but I don’t like his actions till now then how come they start liking him just because they don’t have someone else in our relatives. I’m not someone and I don’t want to be someone to accept things by getting emotional, I can compromise but this is a huge sacrifice, I don’t know about future, I don’t know about happiness but I just know that I can’t think about him as my spouse I can’t live my life like this, just thinking about this is aching my heart and I feel like going somewhere away from this society.

I can’t blame my parents, I know they want the best for me and I can understand their concerns that they can’t trust someone who is not our relative but don’t I have a life, a life I want to spend with someone I like? Do I have to sacrifice just because I’m at the age of getting tied, and they find this person suitable?

My parents won’t force me but my mother has said somethings like “we don’t have anyone else whom we can think for you”, “we also want best for you”, and many other emotional things but I don’t wanna get married to that person.

Kindly give me some advice and a way to deny this proposal.