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Happy to Marry, But Sad to Leave Everything Behind

11 April, 2024
Q I'm getting married in a month insha'Allah to someone I believe was brought to me straight from Allah and I am confident in my decision. We care very deeply about one another and I'm excited to spend the rest of my life with him. The thing is, I'm so sad to leave everything behind, sadder than I ever thought I'd be. I'll be moving states & won't have as easy access to my family anymore. I am leaving behind 2 cats whom I love so deeply it feels silly but I love them so much. I am excited about the future, but just leaving these things/people behind is breaking my heart so much. No one told me it would be so emotional and I never prepared myself. It just hit me like a ton of bricks. On top of these emotions, my life is so chaotic and turbulent right now that I don't even have time to FEEL these feelings so when I do they come at me strong and I end up bawling my eyes. I don't doubt my decision, but it's just hard. I'm so used to a certain life, a routine, the same people, things, etc and it's all about to change. I hold my cats and just kiss them so much and they try to run away bc they don't understand lol and when I tell people this, they think I'm insane for caring so much about some cats. I just don't know how long these emotions will last for. My heart feels like it's slowly breaking w each day but also excited at my future and I don't know how to begin to process the clashing emotions :(


It is a blessing that you feel that you have found the right one and are getting married soon. A new chapter is about to start, and aside from the excitement and hope for a happy future, this is also the moment to close an important part of your life.

These types of mixed feelings are common. It is okay to be emotional as you also say goodbye to your home with all your loved ones and past routines.

Let yourself live these moments and use journaling if writing out your feelings makes you better.

What else can you do to make this transition easier?

Check out the advice here.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.