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Feeling Scared That He Would Expose My Past

26 March, 2024
Q I am 24 yr old practicing female actually when I was in college 16 yrs old I use to casually chat with a guy but when I said my friend, she started texting him and came into relationship with him.

Years went on and now I got engaged to this guy’s best friend. I am scared that this guy may expose me. And it’s not for now it’s for life he is relative as well and our community is strict as well, they don’t give second chances as well I am not been able to take a decision because if later, he exposes me after some yrs as well my husband would think bad about me. I am already going through a lot in life. I have waited my whole life. I am thinking about telling my parents the truth please tell me what to do.


What happened was a casual chat, and before all, it happened 8 years ago, while you were still a teenager.

Now you are a growing Muslimah who is taking her religion more seriously. You are pious now and have changed for the better, alhamdulillah.

Probably you have already repented for your mistake to the Most Forgiving and Most Merciful. Even if someone brings it up, this is what matters, not what others say or think about it.

Have your faith and trust in Allah that everything will be OK, and focus on the present and your possible marriage.

If you like this boy and you feel that he is the right one for you, there is no need to worry about what happened a long time ago.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.