Years went on and now I got engaged to this guy’s best friend. I am scared that this guy may expose me. And it’s not for now it’s for life he is relative as well and our community is strict as well, they don’t give second chances as well I am not been able to take a decision because if later, he exposes me after some yrs as well my husband would think bad about me. I am already going through a lot in life. I have waited my whole life. I am thinking about telling my parents the truth please tell me what to do.
Answer
What happened was a casual chat, and before all, it happened 8 years ago, while you were still a teenager.
Now you are a growing Muslimah who is taking her religion more seriously. You are pious now and have changed for the better, alhamdulillah.
Probably you have already repented for your mistake to the Most Forgiving and Most Merciful. Even if someone brings it up, this is what matters, not what others say or think about it.
Have your faith and trust in Allah that everything will be OK, and focus on the present and your possible marriage.
If you like this boy and you feel that he is the right one for you, there is no need to worry about what happened a long time ago.
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