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Bullied by Boys in School, Can I Talk to Girls Instead?

13 June, 2023
Q Salamu alaikum I am 16 years old. I went from a Muslim country to the US 11 months ago. And I am in high school. Since I started high school and I've had friends that bully me, so I don't like to hang out with them anymore. But there is this one girl that I think I started getting close to because we always sit in the same class in break and lunch in high school. So, I always had the question of is it okay to be friends with girls in my school? is it okay if hang out with one of them? is it okay to joke around with them or not? That was my question that I always used to think about and I would really appreciate if someone guided me to the right place Thank you

Answer

You just moved from a Muslim country, and you still haven’t found your place. It is a big change, and on top of that, in this high school, you haven’t met good friends yet.

Have you tried the local masjid or Islamic center? Maybe there you can find some like-minded teens and hang out with them. Get involved with these groups and actively seek out new connections.

Even if you feel lonely at school, it is not recommended to build friendships with the opposite sex, as it can lead to romantic feelings and more.

How do you deal with girls in your class?

Watch the video for some tips.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.