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Wa `alaykum As-Salamu waRahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
In this fatwa:
It is Allah who chose your gender even as He is the one who chose your parents, your place, and date of birth, etc. He is All-Wise and All-Knowing.
In his response to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:
Jannah and its precise nature belong to the realm of ghayb (Unseen); as such, it is beyond our ordinary means of cognition and reasoning.
Therefore, we are not allowed to speculate about its precise nature and details. It is not different from a baby in the womb speculating about the nature of life outside; we do not have the faculties to perceive the realities beyond senses.
Therefore, we believe what is given us in revelation leaving the precise details to Allah; its true nature will be revealed to us when we pass away from this material phase of our existence. The Prophet said, “In paradise there awaits us such bliss the like of which no eyes have seen, no ears have heard, and no mind could ever conceive or imagine.” (Al-Bukhari)
Furthermore, Islam also teaches us that we ought to accept the will of Allah. It is Allah who chose your gender even as He is the one who chose your parents, your place, and date of birth, etc. He is All-Wise and All-Knowing.
So, as a Muslimah, you ought to accept Allah’s choice for you, and thank Him. As for what some women may do which might not be very rational or unmannerly, that is their business; you should leave them alone while trying your best to purge your heart of such traits of character. Remember each person is responsible for himself or herself.
Allah Almighty knows best.