21 July, 2019
As-salamu `alaykum. My wife has just got a hajj offer from a sheikh who has refused to help us get a job with his numerous connections in the past. The sheikh is not also related to her by blood but known to her parents for many years. The sheikh also practices shirk in doing prayers for people and this is known to both of us as we discussed this shirk issue severally amongst ourselves and as a matter of fact, it informed my distancing myself from the sheikh after I became more conversant with the teachings of Islam and reading the Qur’an and Hadiths more often. My wife is hell bent on going and told me she's taking the offer to honor her own parents that the offer came through even though she knows I'm not happy with it. This issue is presently affecting our relationship at home because I feel it's a betrayal of trust on her part. I also feel I should be the one to send her to Hajj when I have the means to. Kindly advise me.
Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
In this fatwa:
1- As for your query, it seems that you judged the matter according to your previous feelings towards that man. From your words, there is no betrayal; rather, it is a chance for your wife to perform Hajj.
2- So, as long as the offer does not include any violation of the Shari`ah laws or the local laws of your country, go ahead and let your wife enjoy performing Hajj.
Responding to your question, Dr. Muhammad Salama, PhD in Islamic Studies in English and an Associate Professor at the Faculty of Islamic Science, Al-Madinah International University, states:
I can understand your feelings. But if you look practically to the issue, it is just a chance for your wife to perform Hajj, even if it has come through this person who practices some types of shirk as you said.
The hajj offer itself involves no shirk. I cannot see any sort of betrayal in your wife’s position. She just wants to take the chance to perform Hajj.
In fact, your words do not provide a good argument for your position. These are just negative feelings and oversensitivity.
So, my advice is to take the issue rationally. If there is nothing wrong with the offer, you should not prevent your wife from taking this chance; particularly, if she is to fulfill the obligation of Hajj.
Allah Almighty knows best.