How Can I Guide Sister Who Married a Non-Muslim Man?

23 September, 2019
Q I have a sister who got married to a non-Muslim man against our (family of the same father) wish, some of our non-Muslim paternal and maternal uncles and aunties supported her continued stay at that non-Muslim man's house where they've even now got a baby. She tells us that she has not walked out of Islam neither converted to Christianity, but we are not sure if she is still practicing her religion at that door. Our several efforts to get her out of that door, threats of not stepping at her door, not wanting anything from her, not burying her and that she should not bury any of us completely failed to yield any positive result. My question is: Do we, as Muslim family members, still have any right of hers?


In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. 

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

In this fatwa:

1- Generally speaking, a Muslim woman is not allowed to marry a non-Muslim. So, your sister is committing a grave sin by doing that. 

2- However, it is NOT advisable to cut relations with her in the hope you may convince her one day that she is violating her religion which may lead her to Allah’s anger.

Responding to the question in point, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:

The sister who has married a non-Muslim is guilty of a grave offence. However, she is still considered a Muslimah.

Although you should express your anger and displeasure and admonish her, it is not advisable to boycott her; for by doing so you are burning the bridge.

Therefore, I would advise the family to continue to talk to her and deal with her wisely. Perhaps that would have a more positive effect on her than simply cutting off relations.

Lastly, never stop praying to Allah to guide all of us and guide others through us and make us all instruments of guidance.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Editor’s note: This fatwa is from Ask the Scholar’s archive and was originally published at an earlier date.