Do I Need Husband’s Permission to Spend on My Mother?

24 September, 2019
Q As-Salamu alaykum. I am a working woman and a mother. I lost my father in my childhood. We are 2 brothers and 2 sisters. We all used to spend our maximum money for our family when we are not married. Now we are married. My elder brother cannot support family now because he has some problems; we are praying and trying to help him so that he gets back to normal routine life. After getting married I told my husband I have family responsibility and I spend this amount for my mother because she sacrificed all her life for us. He wants me to work and spend all money for him and his family. I have supported him whenever he wants even I gave him money for the loan he took for marriage ceremony. My question to the scholar is what should I do in this situation? What does Islam say about woman income? Do I need my husband's permission to spend on my mother?

Answer

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu waRahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. 

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.


In this fatwa:

You don’t need the permission of your husband to spend your money on your mother or help out any other members of your family who are in need.


Answering your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a Senior Lecturer and an Islamic Scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:

You don’t need the permission of your husband to spend your money on your mother or help out any other members of your family who are in need.

Your earnings are yours; you may, however, give a certain percentage of it towards the household expenses; the rest is yours to keep, and you may decide what do so with it.

Taking care of your mother is a greater priority for you than supporting your husband’s relatives; that is his responsibility.

Therefore, your husband is clearly wrong. Whatever money he has taken from you without your pleasure is unlawful, and he needs to return it to you unless you are willing to forgive him.

Allah Almighty knows best.

Editor’s note: This fatwa is from Ask the Scholar’s archive and was originally published at an earlier date.