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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
In this fatwa:
Islam teaches that even if parents are abusive, cutting them off completely is forbidden. However, when abuse harms mental health, minimal contact is allowed. A Muslim must still uphold respect, patience, and prayer for their parents, trusting Allah’s reward for endurance.
Responding to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:
If your mother mistreats or oppresses you, she is committing a sinful act. However, that does not mean you are absolved of your duties towards her, as commanded by Allah. You cannot completely cut ties with her, as that would be a flagrant act of disobedience, thus incurring the wrath of Allah.
However, if maintaining a normal relationship hurts your mental well-being, try to keep a minimal connection instead. Remember that Allah commands kindness to both parents, even if they are non-believers; mind you, disbelief is a greater sin than what you allege your mother of.
Therefore, I would urge you to maintain connection with your mother to the best of your ability. Don’t forget to pray to Allah for her guidance and forgiveness. Perhaps Allah will guide her and improve her condition, which is better than hating her, praying against her, or boycotting her altogether.
Remember, if you strive to obey Allah and remain patient, you will receive a great reward and abundant good – Insha’Allah. As Allah says: {Indeed, those who fear Allah and are patient, then Allah does not allow the reward of the doers of good to be lost.} (Yusuf 12: 90)
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Almighty Allah knows best.