If Someone Can’t Get Married, Is Zina the Solution?

24 September, 2020
Q As-salamu `alaykum. My friend is a British Muslim male, 26 years old, originally from Syria. He lives in London. He has a job and his standard of living is not so low (like 1000 GBP a month). He wants to get married so badly and keeps complaining that he cannot find a proper Muslim girl to get married to in the UK. Even if he got married abroad, he won't be able to bring his wife to live with him in London because of the difficult procedures (for example, he needs to get higher salary). Therefore, he told me that some thoughts such as "Zina" has showed up in his mind, and I really want to get him out of this. Please, advise as soon as possible and that will be highly appreciated.

Answer

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.


In this fatwa:

1- It is not permissible for a Muslim to have any physical contact with a woman outside marriage.

2- Your friend should observe fasting on some days and keep himself busy with some sports or charitable activities imploring Allah Almighty to facilitate marriage for him.


Answering your question, Dr. Wael Shehab, PhD in Islamic Studies from Al-Azhar University and currently the Imam of the Downtown Toronto Masjid in Canada, states:

Intimate relations between men and women

In fact, Islam forbids intimate relations between men and women out of the marriage bond. Allah Almighty says in the Quran

{And come not near unto adultery. Lo! It is an abomination and an evil way.} (Al-Israa’ 17:32)

Thus, Islam has taken a firm and decisive stance against zina (fornication or adultery). Islam not only prohibits zina, but also closes all the avenues and means leading to it. This is achieved by prohibiting every step and means leading to stimulating desires, opening ways for illicit sexual relations between men and women, and promoting indecency and obscenity.

So, this brother should fear Allah. Also, he should busy himself with the beneficial activities of the nearby Islamic center and to frequent the masjid. In addition, he should encircle himself with good Muslim brothers. He may involve himself in some studies or beneficial training.

This brother should make duaa to Allah Almighty to make marriage easy for him. He may seek the local imam’s help and counseling too.

Finally, he may observe fasting on some days as the Prophet (peace and blessings be on him) instructed, “O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.” (Al-Bukhari)

May Allah accept your and our good deeds!

Allah Almighty knows best.

Editor’s note: This fatwa is from Ask the Scholar’s archive and was originally published at an earlier date.