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Wife Shared Her Nude Pictures; Shall I Divorce Her?

22 January, 2022
Q I am married for some years and have no kids yet. It was an arranged marriage.

We started living together 6 months ago before that due to visa complications we were not living together. She used to visit me once a year before we started to live together. We never had a fight or disagreement in all these years.

She never complains about anything and always say she loves me and I am her soulmate.

A few days ago I found on her cell phone that she shared nude pics and videos of her with another man. I am very heartbroken and lost all my trust. I haven’t talked about this thing to her yet as I am emotionally very disturbed.

Just to add that she used to do the same thing in the past and she shared her nude pics with a guy before marriage.

I got to know about this thing and forgave her for her past mistake.

Also she has no inclination towards religion. She prays neither fasts and has many male friends.

Kindly advise me what should I do? Should I divorce her as she cheated on me for sharing nude pics after marriage?

Please advise me regarding this. Thanks.


In this counseling answer:

Continue to pray to Allah to ease your situation.

You have every right to divorce her for what she has done. But you also have the option to forgive if you feel you can.

If you choose to leave, be prepared for some difficulty in adjusting to a new life.

Seek marriage counseling.

Assalamu alaikum,

When a marriage faces such a betrayal like this, it can be difficult to know what to do. Do you forgive and move on with the one you love so dearly, or do you part ways for fear you will never recover from the betrayal and it will affect your marriage forever.

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In this case, you have every right to divorce her for what she has done. But you also have the option to forgive if you feel you can.

What she has done is a grave sin, but it is also good to practice forgiveness as we pray for Allah’s forgiveness for other sins we commit. However, that does not mean you have to, especially since she has done this before in the past. This is going to cause serious trust issues for you as you feel that she may have the potential to do it again.

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Talk to Her about It

Once you are feeling calmer and less emotionally disturbed it would be a good idea to talk to her about it. Give her the chance to apologize. You will be able to feel for yourself she is genuine in her apology.

If you choose to stay, it will be a challenge to build the trust that has been broken again. If you make this choice, you must be prepared to trust her again if your relationship is to succeed. If you don’t feel like you could ever trust her again, then your marriage will have a hard time working out.

If you choose to leave, be prepared for some difficulty in adjusting to a new life. Seek support from your loved ones in order to ease the emotional burden that you may face.

Either way, make sure to take care of yourself. Eat well, sleep well and exercise and do things that you enjoy. Staying or leaving will likely come with some kind of emotional turmoil or other, so protect your own well being as a means of taking care of your psychological wellbeing.

Seek Marriage Counseling

In order to make this process easier, you might consider marriage counseling. This serves a couple of purposes. Firstly, it will provide you both the opportunity to share your feelings in an open space free from judgment. If done with an imam, he will also be able to guide you according to Islamic values.

It will give you the space to get everything out in the open in a controlled environment. It will also give you the chance to try everything to make it work. This way, if you choose to leave then you can be confident that you are doing the right thing as you have done all you can to make it work before ultimately bringing it to an end.

Alongside all this, considering it is a very important decision to make, continue to pray to Allah to ease your situation. Additionally, you can pray istikhara for Allah to guide you to make the best decision for both you and your wife that will be most pleasing to Him. If your marriage is meant to continue, He will guide you to make it work and if not He will make it easy for you to walk away.

May Allah guide you to make the best decision. May He make everything happen easily for you with the least emotional turmoil.



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About Hannah Morris
Hannah Morris is a mum of 4 and she currently works as Counsellor and Instructor of BSc. Psychology at the Islamic Online University (IOU). She obtained her MA degree in Psychology and has over 10 years of experience working in health and social care settings in the UK, USA, and Ireland. Check out her personal Facebook page, ActiveMindCare, that promotes psychological well-being in the Ummah. (