25 November, 2023
Q
It’s been nearly 2 years since I broke up with my husband. He is now married, but he doesn’t leave my thoughts or dreams. I always have a feeling he wants to be back with me but doesn’t know how to.
I’m talking to someone new and I still can’t stop thinking about him or comparing him to the guy I speak to now. My ex didn’t have good traits and was not a very practicing Muslim. The guy I speak to now has all the qualities a girl would want in a guy for marriage. I’m in a dilemma.
Allah showed me all the signs why it didn’t work out with my ex. Then why is my heart still his? These thoughts and stress are driving me crazy. Even in my dreams I see him, but it’s like he isn’t acknowledging me as much as I am.
He married a revert. The girl whom he cheated on me with. I met him a year, he looked like he wasn’t happy and recently told someone he didn’t know how to get me back. He said I always had his heart. What shall I do? Should I go back? My parents will not agree, but can I live with this heart ache forever?
He doesn't deserve me, but I can’t help thinking we could still have a future.
I’m talking to someone new and I still can’t stop thinking about him or comparing him to the guy I speak to now. My ex didn’t have good traits and was not a very practicing Muslim. The guy I speak to now has all the qualities a girl would want in a guy for marriage. I’m in a dilemma.
Allah showed me all the signs why it didn’t work out with my ex. Then why is my heart still his? These thoughts and stress are driving me crazy. Even in my dreams I see him, but it’s like he isn’t acknowledging me as much as I am.
He married a revert. The girl whom he cheated on me with. I met him a year, he looked like he wasn’t happy and recently told someone he didn’t know how to get me back. He said I always had his heart. What shall I do? Should I go back? My parents will not agree, but can I live with this heart ache forever?
He doesn't deserve me, but I can’t help thinking we could still have a future.
Answer
Salam Aleikom,
In this counseling video, the counselor advises:
Facing difficulties in a marriage is normal.
Consider all your options.
Think of his positive qualities; do you feel with a counsellor, marriage is workable?
Do all you can to save the marriage; seek help from a counsellor.
If you decide to divorce;make the plan how you will move on. Where you will live, what you will do.
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