Shall I Get Married While Having a Chronic Illness?

12 October, 2021
Q Assalamu alaikum. I need some guidance in regards to my situation. I'm 34. I have never been married. I've been diagnosed at the age of 23 with an illness that can affect me physically due to me having very weak immunity.

I'm always getting coughs, colds, flu, or something more serious that requires me to stay in the hospital. I am working although some days are a struggle as I'm constantly feeling tired due to my health.

But most days I live a normal life. But then there are days when I am bed-bound. I know my medical condition will either stay how it is or become worse. The latter is what scares me the most. I want to get married but then I have days when I think I will be of no use to anyone.

I met someone now who is a potential husband and knows just the basics of my condition. I'm scared if I tell him the big picture, it will put him off and I might not get another chance as am 34 already.

Some days I feel like just giving up and becoming a recluse. What does one do if they have an illness and can't marry? I can't make up my mind what to do with my life. I don't know what's going to happen with my health. Please advise.

Answer

Salam Aleikom,

In this counseling video, you will learn:

Is there any positive consequence of having a chronic illness?

Should you disclose your illness to your suitors in full details?

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About Hannah Morris
Hannah Morris is a mum of 4 and she currently works as Counsellor and Instructor of BSc. Psychology at the Islamic Online University (IOU). She obtained her MA degree in Psychology and has over 10 years of experience working in health and social care settings in the UK, USA, and Ireland. Check out her personal Facebook page, ActiveMindCare, that promotes psychological well-being in the Ummah. (www.facebook.com/activemindcare)