I Let My Husband Commit Zina with Another Woman

28 May, 2018
Q Assalamu alaikum.

I am 29 years old. My problem is my husband's relationship with other ladies. He is a very orthodox man. He does every salah without any delay. He recites the Quran every day. His only weakness is women.

I am not beautiful. But he loves me very much. However, when he sees other beautiful women, he loses his control. At first, I always quarreled with him about this matter. He promised he would never repeat it again. But he did.

He has many female friends he has been chatting with. He tried to hide them from me. I feel that I am just a burden to him. I feel very sad. I am not sure what to do. I understand that he will never give up his character. If I quarrel, again and again, our relationship will become worse. I can’t leave him because I love him very much.

Then I decided to allow him whatever he wants just asked him to not hide it from me. I act as I am enjoying his chatting and flirting with other women. I've totally changed. I behave as a friend, not as a wife. I changed my heart from a sensitive one to a stone; it can bear anything. After that, he started telling everything to me. Now we are living a happy life. But now he wants a sexual relationship with a girl. I don’t know what to do.

I agreed for that with a broken heart. I don’t want to go to our previous life, so I agreed that he commits zina. I am fearful of Allah whether He will forgive me or not. I am 8 months pregnant. I don’t know what will happen. I am helpless. Please, help me how to decide.


Salam Aleikom,

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About Megan Wyatt
Megan Wyatt is the founder of Wives of Jannah where she offers training programs, live workshops, and relationship coaching for wives and couples. She is a certified Strategic Intervention coach with specialized certifications for working with women and marital relationships and has been coaching and mentoring Muslims globally since 2008. She shares her passion for Islamic personal development in her Passionate Imperfectionist community. She is a wife and homeschooling mother with four children residing in Southern California.