08 January, 2023
Q
When my Christian mother wanted to settle in Bucharest (my home city), she assigned me to the same old, elementary school where I’ve been before. When I was assigned there, things were totally fine, until something strange has drastically happened. We started to fight each other like hell for a very long time.
When I graduated from elementary school and went to a high school, I was luckily admitted in a class where my classmates accepted me the way I was and treated me normal like everyone.
However, even if they are ok and nothing has happened until now, still I have been left with a big trauma from my past, and for every small insult or affront I explode like a supernova and start to be a very bad person because of being badly affected in the past. And even if something happens to me in the future, I’ll still do evil due to my trauma. I get angry too quickly and I can’t control my anger. Before I came back home to Bucharest, I used to have control over my anger.
Now I’m worried about what will happen to me in the grave and on the Day of Judgment.
Will God accept this from me as a valid excuse and will not mind for my bad deeds and will grant me forgiveness in the grave and also on the Day of Judgment? Do you think I’ve been traumatized? Or it is just in my mind? I need your opinion.
When I graduated from elementary school and went to a high school, I was luckily admitted in a class where my classmates accepted me the way I was and treated me normal like everyone.
However, even if they are ok and nothing has happened until now, still I have been left with a big trauma from my past, and for every small insult or affront I explode like a supernova and start to be a very bad person because of being badly affected in the past. And even if something happens to me in the future, I’ll still do evil due to my trauma. I get angry too quickly and I can’t control my anger. Before I came back home to Bucharest, I used to have control over my anger.
Now I’m worried about what will happen to me in the grave and on the Day of Judgment.
Will God accept this from me as a valid excuse and will not mind for my bad deeds and will grant me forgiveness in the grave and also on the Day of Judgment? Do you think I’ve been traumatized? Or it is just in my mind? I need your opinion.
Answer
Salam Aleikom,
In this counseling answer, you will learn:
• Seek help from a counselor
• Differentiate between being a bad person and having a bad behavior
• Look for the triggers; track them
• Look for the physiological signs
• Techniques to calm yourself down at times of anger
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