However, he does not have any patience and wants to change my personality. I think to be sweet to him or show my feelings to him in privacy is not a wrong thing, right? He said to me that he married a woman. He says I don’t understand him, I don’t study as he wants me to, I don’t behave seriously or maturely. I am cheerful, I can’t change it.
Sometimes I feel he does not love me or he does not care about me. I only ask for love and kindness, but he said I am too sensitive. If he is busy I can’t talk to him, or he will be rude to me. But after I leave, he starts to play games and he is just happy with his friends. I hate when he ignores me.
I know I’m not perfect, but I don’t know how much more should I change myself. It’s ok if it is something evil according to Islam, I understand and change it. I want to live a life according to the Islamic rules. However, I do not know why my husband is angry at me all the time.
Answer
Salam Alaikum,
In this video, you will learn:
Ideal obedience to the husband is limited. It is not about that the wife needs to do everything what the husband wants.
A husband being a leader comes with great responsibility.
Trust your gut – as you trusted it when you became a Muslim – when it comes to your relationship with your husband.
Focus on your most important responsibilities a Muslim should do such as praying.
Stand up for yourself and tell him that it is not right he puts you down. It is not healthy.
Mercy, kindness, and love are ingredients of marriage. If you cannot find them with your husband, you need to think of whether this marriage is for you.
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