Q For the last five months I have been taking care of my parents as my father had an accident and he was on his deathbed, but Alhamdulila he recovered. I have been married for 8 years, our relationship had its up and down but never like this.

He is using his work to stay away from home and he sleeps there nearly 2 to 3 times a week. If not he comes at midnight and on his day off he will be outside all day coming for 2 hrs and leaves.(He doesn’t maintain me. I use my money for living and he helps).

I still once or twice a week I would prepare some food he likes and take to him but he wouldn’t even come down as he would be resting and would send his kitchen helper (he is chef in a hotel). He told me that he is not coming next to me to avoid arguments. I have been a bit depressed with the situation all together. We had hot argument back in the first weeks when my dad had the accident about how his family had been rude to me and he diffened them as always.

I’m trying to attract him to me but he is saying that I’m acting and he is saying to me that now I need to take responsibility for what I have done since I took care of my father and I was close to my sisters and brother. I was a bit depressed. This week we managed to spend a good day together but he started talking about marrying another wife, and about this article that when a husband is fed up with his first wife it will adjust the relationship by marrying a second woman.

I wake up crying every morning. I feel that he was not next to me In one of the worst times of my life but he is saying that he was not with me to avoid arguments and now he is pushing me for it.

Is he right? Am I crazy thinking of divorce? Can you kindly advise?