I am really going through a rough patch in my life. I am depressed, I am anxious all the time, I over think and I am lonely. All my life I was always a failure, never really did well in studies, wanted to be a cricketer but was not supported. Became lazy and ignorant, although I kept praying and coming back to Allah. But I was hurt and I didn’t take my responsibility seriously.
So as a man I have desires and I wanted to pursue it in a haram way, but I also got rejected over there, got more depressed, made me feel conscious of my look even more (I am bald since I was 22) maybe Allah saved me in a way from haram but it still hurts that I am unattractive because now I want to marry and I don’t want to marry someone who isn’t attracted to me.
I also crave love and affection. But I also can’t do that as I don’t have a good job. I just earn enough to feed myself, can’t send money to my parents, can’t help the poor or anything. Time is running out and I am getting more and more depressed day by day and I see my life flashing, recalling each and every failure.
I don’t really know what to do. I wanna get married but I don’t have money and I feel unattractive. How do I cope up with this? Sometimes I wish that I die so that a burden could be lifted from my parents and I’ll be at ease at least under the grave (hopefully). Please tell me how do I carry myself forward with hope and a smile?
Are you feeling depressed and unlovable because you think you are not attractive enough?
Do you fear that no one would like to marry you?
Attraction is subjective. Not everybody is attracted to the same traits or looks. You may dislike something about your body, which will be the most appealing quality to someone else.
And just because you were rejected once, does not mean that you will be rejected by all.
Positive self-talk and thinking is the key. With a 30-day practice, you can achieve transformation in your way of looking at your life. How?
Check out Sr. Aisha’s tip on reducing depressive symptoms by adopting a more positive perspective on yourself and your achievements.
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