Trump Has Torn My Family Apart

31 January, 2017
Q Salam Aleikom. I am from Iran and came to the US a few month ago for work reasons. I have been working on to get my family here to be with me, But due to the new law of Trump, my wife and son were not allowed to departure although they received their visa and had the ticket. We are desperate. I don’t what to do now. Please help!



Wa ‘Alaikum Salaam wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatuh dear sister,

It is a very difficult situation many people have been facing recently, and it is an issue that affects everyone on a global level. I can understand how difficult things must be for you right now. But there are some steps that you can take to ensure your well-being during these testing times.

Being separated from your family under any circumstances can be hugely distressing for a number of reasons. However, it is really great to see the support for people in your situation now. Seldom we see times like this where people of all faiths are unified in supporting one another through crisis. There is plenty of support available as so many people, Muslims and non-Muslims alike, are stepping forward to help and support the Muslims (and non-Muslims) affected by this new law in ways that we have never witnessed before. In fact, times like this bring even more people to Islam as it draws their attention to the religion to the point where they would like to read and find out more. So whilst on the surface it might seem like a big disaster, sometimes, these things can be a hidden blessing to the Ummah as a whole.

The key in this situation is patience. As you know, whilst it is a devastating law to pass, it is only a temporary one and one that so many people are fighting to overturn right now. Although we don’t have the physical power to overturn this rule ourselves, what we do have is the power of prayer. Nothing is more powerful than that. Turn to Allah (swt) and pray to Him to release you and all the other families in this situation from the difficulties that they are facing right now. Be steadfast and content in the knowledge that Allah (swt) will hear your prayers. It can be very easy to give up in times like this, but continue to rely on Allah (swt) and turn to Him. Surely, He (swt) will see you through and will never give up on you.

Alhamdulilah, with technology today, you cannot be entirely cut off. You can still maintain contact with family and friends through telephone calls and the internet. Whilst this is not ideal and no replacement for them being with you in person, you will find some comfort that you are not entirely cut off from them. Remember that there are people in even worse situations where they become entirely cut off from their family with no means of communication, not even sure of their loved one’s safety and well-being.

Keep active in your local community, find comfort with local brothers, and keep yourself busy until in sha Allah your wife and son can join you again.

Being absent from your wife and son will make you appreciate them and vice versa so much more. All too often when we spend all our time with our loved ones we take them for granted. Being apart, especially for an extended time, can only grow the love between you even further, building solid foundations for your relationship when you are reunited once again.

Sometimes, it can be difficult to truly appreciate the positives in a situation when times seem so dire, but it’s important for your own psychological health to take a positive view of things too to keep you motivated through the worst of times. Allah (swt) will reward your patience during these trying times, and that is a very important point to remember to keep you pushing through the toughest of times.

May Allah (swt) bring ease to you and your family, bring you all strength, and unite you again very soon in sha Allah.



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About Hannah Morris
Hannah Morris is a mum of 4 and she currently works as Counsellor and Instructor of BSc. Psychology at the Islamic Online University (IOU). She obtained her MA degree in Psychology and has over 10 years of experience working in health and social care settings in the UK, USA, and Ireland. Check out her personal Facebook page, ActiveMindCare, that promotes psychological well-being in the Ummah. (