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While you can search by the criteria of not having older siblings when you are looking for a spouse, you might miss out on some very good and valuable opportunities because of it.
If you have had bad experiences, it does not mean that all elder siblings are bad. There are nice and kind in-laws who would treat you as if you were one of their own brothers.
And perhaps the misbehavior of your brother has more to do with his character than with being the older one.
When you have a potential spouse, try to get to know her better—in a halal way—and check the compatibility level, then get to know her family before you make the decision.
What else is there to do to prevent marital problems because of other family members?
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