I am worried about my kids now as they are grown up if someone asks what's your father does, what would she able to answer when his father doesn’t work, I hate to tell lies, but he doesn't leave me any option for the sake of pride and not to let him down in others eyes. I had to lie something, Allah should forgive me for the lies, I don't want my kids to lie because of lazy nature. He is having sugar unless like others, he doesn't walk much and by sitting he gets leg pain, I have to take care of him, kids, house work, office work everything.
I am so frustrated, if Allah would have given permission to end our life by our hand, I would have ended my life, I am that much frustrated. I am so much frustrated for his lazy nature. He says I am not wasting your money unless like others. Please suggest me something, what I should do? Hope you are getting my point what I am feeling.
Answer
A husband is expected to provide for his family and try his best to fulfill his Islamic duty in marriage.
What if your husband is lazy and does not show interest in work?
If you are worried that your children will grow up with the wrong example, talk to your husband.
Your feelings of embarrassment are totally understandable; however, when you approach him, put them aside and talk to him with kindness and without reproach.
Offer your help to find alternatives and something suitable for his health condition.
What else can you do to motivate him? Find it out here.
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