Q My husband and I are in long distance. We recently got married after dating for 5 years. I always repent to Allah for my past mistakes and may Allah forgive us both for the past. But during these days I feel resentful towards my husband. He has many friends in Canada and I don’t find them to be good company for my husband. Because of the lifestyle of those friends. For example, my husband also has friends here in and he is a very different person here. The friends here are very respectful towards each other. They speak very gently. Most of them are married and they are all good to their wives. They pray 5 times a day and even encourage each other to pray. They don’t have friends of opposition gender. But the friends my husband has there, smokes, drinks alcoholic and even when my husband goes back, he started smoking with them. They share pornographic contents with each other which my husband doesn’t do here but when he goes there, he becomes very defensive about the friends there. Their normal conversations include a lot of cursing, vulgar words. They share and brag about their intimate relationships with everyone. They have friends of opposite gender who they mix very closely. They dance together and celebrate birthdays together. They don’t pray except Friday and Eid prayers.

Now I don’t want my husband to be a loner there and stop talking to his friends. All I want him to do is learn the boundaries around them. And not do anything that can have impact on his deen and our marriage. I have tried to talk to him about my feelings. But he doesn’t want to change or understand my side. What can I do at this point?