The situation is really frustrating and it discourages me to initiate making love with her, thus, distancing me from one of the most enjoyable occasions in my life. I can not marry another woman merely citing this as a reason and can not afford to do either. (I have grown-up kids; my eldest daughter is almost 18.) What is the solution? How can I fulfill my desires in a halal way?
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“Constant bad breath is not normal and needs to be addressed not only for your enjoyment of her essence but more importantly for her health.”
As-Salamu ‘Alaykum brother,
I admire your love and passion for your wife after all these years; it is, indeed, a precious gift. I am sorry to hear of the issue with her bad breath. This truly can be a turn-off sexually and, like a domino effect, it may begin to put distance between you in other areas of the relationship.
Bad breath has many causes. The types of foods one eats on a regular basis can cause bad breath and gases in the intestines. However, as this is a long-standing problem, it could be medically related or it could have to do with the way she brushes, flosses (or doesn’t). Brushing, flossing, and having one’s teeth cleaned on a regular basis are preventive steps to avoid gum disease, which also produces an odor.
I would kindly suggest brother that, in sha’ Allah, you ask her to see a dentist to check the condition of her teeth as well as a doctor to get a complete physical examination done, citing her persistent bad breath as an issue. Constant bad breath is not normal and needs to be addressed not only for your enjoyment of her essence but more importantly for her health.
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In sha’ Allah, brother, she will seek medical advice from her dentist and doctor. In the meantime, please make du’aa’ to Allah that this is resolved quickly and that the issue is found and corrected. Just with knowing there is a remedy coming, it may help you, in sha’ Allah, to be stronger and patient just a little while longer. Please do hang in there; you both seem to have a wonderful marriage otherwise!
You are in our prayers. Please let us know how you both are doing.
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