In-Laws Broke My Marriage

14 October, 2020
Q I am having dreams about my in-laws who were the main cause of me and my husband to separate.

He hasn’t contacted me for a year, but he hasn’t mentioned that he wants to divorce me. I am having dreams about them trying to make me fit into the family and husband just staring at me.

What does this mean?

Answer


In this counseling answer:

  • Sister, in the absence of istakhara prayer, often times our dreams are reflections of what is going on in our subconscious.
  • Seek marriage counseling or initiate the divorce.
  • Pray istikharah.

As Salamu Alaykum sister,

Thank you for writing to us. I am not sure I understand your question, but I will do my best.

As I understand, you are having dreams about your in-laws who were the main cause of your separation. You have been for a year. Your husband has not gotten in contact with you, nor has his family. Your dreams are about them trying to make you fit in the family while your husband just stares.

In-Laws Broke My Marriage - About Islam

Dreams

Sister, in the absence of istakhara prayer, often times our dreams are reflections of what is going on in our subconscious. Perhaps, after all this time you are still hurt over their interference. Maybe deep down you wished they had been that loving family inviting you to be a part of their lives. Sadly, however, it is not how it worked out.


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Sister, they have not contacted you since the separation, nor has your husband. This is not the actions of those who care. Based on this fact, perhaps your dreams are signifying that it is time you moved on with your life. This would mean a divorce. It may be that you need to start to initiate divorce as it has been over a year. No one has gotten in touch with you, sister, to even see if you were okay.

Istikhara

I would kindly suggest that you make istakhara prayer. Ask Allah for signs as to your marriage. Try to have a clear mind when you do which includes no preconceived wishes or notions. Just go to Allah and insha’Allah let Allah show you the way.

I hope this has helped some, dear sister. Please, do write back with more detail if you need a more expounded upon response.

You are in our prayers.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha received her PhD in psychology in 2000 and an MS in public health in 2009. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years for Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. Aisha specializes in trauma, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, marriage/relationships issues, as well as community-cultural dynamics. She is certified in Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and is also a certified Life Coach. Aisha works at a Family Resource Center, and has a part-time practice in which she integrates healing and spirituality using a holistic approach. Aisha plans to open a holistic care counseling center for Muslims and others in the New York area in the future, in sha' Allah. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocate for social & food justice. In her spare time she enjoys her family, martial arts classes, Islamic studies as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.