Q During marriage time my faith was not that strong and when my husband asked me to be a flexible girl within our religion, I agreed to him. We tried to follow Islam as much as possible but also used to party, eat non-halal meat, etc.

Now from the past couple of years I have started understanding the Quran more and more, and trying my best to follow it as much as possible. I’m doing 5 times of Salah, reading the Quran regularly, fasting during Ramadan, giving zakat, no interest on money. My husband used to argue for some days about each of these when I started following them and then let it go.

Recently since this year Ramadan I started doing hijab, and he is very much against it. However much I try to convince him, he is not agreeing. And the hard part is both his family and my family are trying to convince me to take the hijab off and agree with what my husband says. My husband is telling my family that he would divorce me if I don’t agree. I really love him and don’t want to leave him and I’m worried about our kids too.

He does drink alcohol occasionally and has started smoking a few months back. Also, he is not getting intimate with me and says he is not able to emotionally connect with me.

In general, he is a really good husband, helping me with all the household chores, taking care of the kids, allowing me to spend time with friends, very good behavior with my family and helping them financially whenever needed, well mannered, sweet at heart person.

Another thing is that he is trying to make a deal with me that he will quit drinking, eat only halal food and pray namaz everyday if I take off the hijab. I do want him to follow all these but don’t want to take off the hijab at the same time. Please suggest what I can do.

Jazakallahu khair